Why can't I get a girlfriend?

Question

I've even offered to pay

I've even asked offered to pay for the date meal etc

Answer 1

Sweetie, I have posted a similar question but slightly differently. I'm married, but wish i wasnt (shhh i didnt say that out loud).
YOu need to love yourself, as much as you love others, paying for a date's meal is sweet and kind, hopefully you'll meet someone who's prepared to do the same for you. Ignore the idiots whose minds are all twisted and thinking you're paying for sex, shame, that's the only frame of reference they reach for cause their brains can't stretch very far.
YOu wear glasses? YOU're probably geeky (like me) and intelligent, and shy / withdrawn, just like me. I've met so many guys like you and wish I had made moves on them, rather than be saddled with my (toddler) husband who has tantrums worse than any kid i've ever come across.
HOney, i'd have you anyday, but you need to create your own reality as far as relationships are concerned. Don't let your ego get in the way of your "risking" rejection, i know i've done this many times, appeared cool, calm and composed when inside i really wanted to mingle and make moves on guys. All my life i waited to be moved on... and a lot of times, because i am intelligent, i find people boring and predictable, i stand and look on (at them) with a sort of condescending demeanour. Well, look where it got me. i'm 35, i want kids, i am gonna make a change and try to flirt and make myself more noticed, take a more proactive role in flirting and risking rejection. How about you?

Answer 2

Why can't you get a girlfriend? Well pardon me if what I am going to say will offend you.I just want to show you an example which might help you understand the reason why.

As you have mentioned it,that you even offered to pay to get yourself a girlfriend.You have made the wrong move to have done so.We girls do have our pride too,mind you! You should have considered our feelings to be offered the way you did.

Tell me how would you feel if the girl you have offered to pay,did the same to you,so you will get lost and leave her alone.How would you feel then?

If you really want to get yourself a girlfriend,do it in a proper way.Come on,I am sure you can be a real gentleman.

Answer 3

Dude, your the guy, your supposed to pay so first of all don't ask and then say "i'll pay" because one of these days your *** is gonna get slapped. Secondly, how old are you? over 18? because if you are and you still have to ask how to get a girlfriend, i'm sorry but that's just pathetic man. Also, don't look to desperate because that don't turn a girl on even a little, no matter how much you beg. So mabye you should just start a little slower, don't start out with the girl that everyone on the block wants to hook up with, start slow and build your way up.

Answer 4

Pick one of the following:

1. You're trying too hard
2. You're not trying hard enough
3. Your standards are set way too high
4. You're looking in the wrong places

Wait, if you're offering to pay, then it sounds as if you're getting dates, but not girlfriends. Change it up a bit. Try taking your dates to other places like to the beach or eat at non-traditional restaurants. Go bike riding or rock climbing. Tour a brewery or famous location or building. Go to a concert. You get the idea...

Answer 5

Pick any girl that strikes you as a nice girl dosen't matter if she is the hottest girl in the room, you deserve her. Get a nice clean haircut, maybe some contacts, brush your teeth, twice, run a comb through your hair. get your shirts pressed with medium starch, make sure your slacks have a nice crease running down them, nice cologne without soaking in it. NICE SHOES!!! Now that you got the physical down lets get your mental game down. Stand straight, chin up eyes fixed and center, stop fidgeting be confident don't act it BE IT. shoulders nice and square stop slouching!!! Cover your mouth when you cough. Smile from your soul. Now be yourself but if you are kinda boring, act. I'm not saying be someone else but if you can get yourself to act the part of someone you know is liked by the ladies take a cue from them. Work in the mirror on a nice smile.Now lets tweak your game.BE CONFIDENT, smile, say few words, don't come on to any woman make a little eye contact and say "Hi there" in passing with your best smile. Do something amazing in front of her and never mention it. Find one that smiles at you and smile back. And dance like no one is watching.

Answer 6

Offerinf to pay can seem desparate. It can also make you seem incredibly old fashioned. Some girls love all that, some hate it with a vengance and consider themsleves independant enough to go halves.
You just have to face it that not every girl you like will like you.

Just for a moment imagine some random girl asks oyu out, it is perfectly likely that you will nto fancy her and will turn her down. That says nothign about you or her except that at that moment in time it just was not going to happen.

Answer 7

read over you question and you will see why...

not only do males like a chase but girls do to

girls like confidence I know plenty of ugly guys who get tons of girls cause of there high and mighty attitude towards life which draw many girls

we like the whole being with someone know knows where they are going and who they are. We like to impress people who hold a higher confidence. It's hott

you offering to pay does not make you appear confident.

Just work on it and the girl u offered to pay... she is a lost cause.

good luck

Answer 8

1) your looking too hard
2) the fact that you offered to pay tells a girl that she is just a buy-able piece of meat and gives off the wrong impression of you
3) you cant just have a girlfriend you have to build a relationship and friendship with a female and take it from there

Answer 9

First of all, it is EXPECTED for the guy to pay. So it isn't about that. It's about you. Most likely, you are asking women too out of your league. Trust me, there are some desperate ones out there, you just have to find them. Don't try to get with some super hottie when your the computer geek. Just my 2 cents. Good luck.

Answer 10

dont offer to pay that will just make you look desperate and pathetic....i'm sure your a nice guy but dont go looking for a girlfriend, you may be trying too hard, if you lighten up and just be yourself you should be fine. jus go up to a girl in a bar and start chatting.

You'll meet somebody who's right for you one day...

Good Luck