if a girl is happy in her new relationship . . would she still be calling her ex that she dumped for this new guy every couple weeks? . . .even though he hasnt answered or sent her something back in 4 months? and she still tries to contact him . . also . . can girls act completely happy on the outside and really be torn up on the inside? is there any way to tell if a girl is feeling like that? . . and if she wanted her ex back why would she still be with me and acting fine? why wouldnt she go back to him? maybe because she dumped him and doesnt know if he will take her back? they did go out for 2 1/2 years so i dunno . .. whats goin on?
and she hasnt told me that shes been calling him . . . and we have been dating since april and have been in an actual relationship for like 2 months . . . how long would she use me as a rebound if thats what i am? wouldnt it be over by now? it been about a month since she called him now since she was calling him. . . so maybe she will stop . . .
then just today she sent an email to him . . . it was this
hey! i just wanted to tell you that i hope you had a good birthday. i was going to call but i figured you wouldnt answer like usual or stop by and give you a card but you would have probably acted like you werent home lol. so i hope you had a good one. it would really mean a lot if you just sent something back lettin me know how ya were doin and stuff...i'de really appreciate it (name)! kayyy bye. . .
so if he hasnt responded to her since june why is she still trying to get ahold of him . . . when he hasnt responded since june?
2006-10-26 08:48:25 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and then she just sent this message to him today
"look i know that you are getting my messages...i really just dont understand why you cant even say hi or something?? can you honestly please just give me a reason, like if it still upsets you or something, i mean thats fine. i just figured you could atleast do that for me...so please?"
2006-10-26 08:49:08 · update #1
Yes she does - jump ship dude - that is unless you enjoy kidding yourself. Don't be that guy.
2006-10-26 08:58:51 · answer #1 · answered by psyflops_gazelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me like she's having a hard time letting go. Maybe she dumped him to get some kind of response from him but it just made things worse for her cause now he won't talk to her. I'd be a little careful cause she might actually be using you as a rebound guy. She's trying to tell herself she's over him by being with you but yes deep inside she might be hurting because she still likes this old guy. If it bothers you and she means a lot to you, then talk to her about it. Ask her why does she still need to talk to this guy knowing that he obviouslly doesn't want anything to do with her. In a rebound relationship she can use you as long as she wants till she gets this guy back or until she meets another guy. Im not trying to say that's what she is doing Im just saying there is a possibillity. I would just talk to her first and ask why she can't let go of this other guy and put all the effort that she putting into trying to talk to this guy into you instead.
2006-10-26 15:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by bktp37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they are just friends and she doesn't want to hurt your feelings so she is keeping to herself. You can tell that a girl is hurting by the why she acts around you. she doesn't want you worry about her like that. Ask her every once in a while if she still loves him and if she doesn't say anything then break it off with her. Just tell her that it is not working out between you and her.
2006-10-26 15:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like she might still have something for her ex im sorry to say that but it does. Has she told you that she has been trying to get a hold of him? Because if she has, bring it up? be like " Hey have you gotten a hold of (name) how is he doing? see if she will tell you the truth about it. and if she keeps wanting to know why and bringing up different things well you just caught her in a lie.
sorry best wishes to you*
2006-10-26 15:56:29 · answer #4 · answered by DJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too long to read it all, but yeah, she is probably just feeling guilty about breaking up. When he doesn't answer or respond, he is playing hard to get. I think you should remind her (gently and diplomatically, like maybe tell her about one of your ex's?) that they didn't work out for a reason and show her that you two are now together. Make her forget him. You can do it.
2006-10-26 15:53:07 · answer #5 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might still have some feeling for him. Maybe she was blinded by you and left him for you but now she keeps remembering the good times that they had. Obviously she's not going to leave you unless she'll be sure he'll take her back.
Also, she might really like you not him, but she can't stand that he doesn't want to have anything to do with her and she just wants him to still be in her life and adore her and that;s selfish.
2006-10-26 15:57:00 · answer #6 · answered by maya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And this is your gf sending her exman stuff like that? She still cares about him, and sorry to say, but you are the rebound guy. You should dump her because to me it sounds like she doesn't want to let you go because her ex doesn't want her back. She doesn't want to be alone. You need to move on because that sounds like it is sure to end in disaster.
2006-10-26 15:52:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a control thing. She doesn't want him, but probably knows that its bugging the Hell out of you.
2006-10-26 15:52:42 · answer #8 · answered by majesticwife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SHOULD LEAVE HER. SHE HAS NOT GOTTEN HER PRIORITIES STRAIGHT AND I DUBT YOU WANNA HANG ON TO THIS RELATIONSHIP..
2006-10-26 15:54:30 · answer #9 · answered by DRLE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋