I don't really have anyplace else to ask so....I wonder if you can help. I have a friend who I have been friends with for about three years, we met online and have been penpals and since we only live a state away we have visited each others families several times. We keep in touch online and via letters but since about the beginning of the year I have noticed that it feels like I am the one putting all the effort into the relationship. I am always the one writing, or commenting on her blog, trying to be supportive, or celebrate with her, and though she visits my blog, she rarely if ever will even comment. Sometimes I will even ask her a question about something (not anything huge) and she won't even acknowledge that I have emailed her or sent her a message on yahoo (I know it hasn't been lost, this has happened a good ten times). I am starting to really feel like an idiot. Am I just being overly sensitive? Or is the balance really out here? Her birthday is coming up and usually we send little gift boxes of goodies (a
tradition she started, not me) and for my birthday in August she only sent a gift certificate for a store. I was thinking of just getting her a little tea sampler set about the same value (she loves tea) but then after that just not contacting her and just letting it fade away, which is what I think she seems to want to do...or that is the vibe I am getting, anyway. I feel really disappointed because I adore her and her family, our husbands even got on well. But I just feel like the friendship is so much more important to me than it is to her. This is beyond her being busy because she will respond to other people when they post on her blog, but rarely responds to me anymore. Is it time to just let this go? Like I said I just feel like a fool at this point for making effort after effort. Thanks!
2006-10-10
15:14:25
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