I am asking on behalf of a female friend. She is in love with this certain guy who is very career-minded. The thing is that guy doesn't want to contiune the relationship but still want to stay in touch with her. He told this friend of mine tat he although he love her, he doesn't want to compromise his time on his career for her and he doesn't want to let her down by spending only a bit of time together. But my friend dun mind this...
I've told her that she need to change the mindset of this guy. I mean, that guy should get a life and not spend the entire life scaling the corporate ladder and in the end find himself alone on top with nobody to share his achievement. Tat's so pitiful.
Any idea what this female friend of mine should do?
2006-10-10 15:11:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The guy is already over 30yr old and is currently in a managerial position
2006-10-10 15:27:52 · update #1
I was in the same situation and there is really nothing she can do but move on and find a man who will love, appreciate, and make time for her; she deserves nothing less than these things.
2006-10-10 15:26:16 · answer #1 · answered by remmymarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your female friend to watch "Family Man" together with the guy. It is a movie of a career-oriented, rich, single guy (Nicolas Cage) who chose his career over his love ones. One day, his life changed into the opposite, he becomes an ordinary guy but have his wife and kids. It is a good story. Maybe, the guy would change his mindset after watching the movie.
2006-10-11 01:08:10 · answer #2 · answered by AskMeNot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy and if I was genuinely in love, I wouldn't let my career get in the way...hell, before I went to pilot school in the Air Force for a year, I got engaged. Sounds to me the guy is looking for an excuse to break up. I did the same thing before I went off to college...I guess I didn't want to hurt her feelings because she was really deep into our relationship and I didn't want to crush her by telling her I'm no longer interested in being with her..I felt kinda trapped (I never let her know of course) and I saw it as an out...but that's just me. He could be different, but I know plenty of guys that use this one...and it's pretty effective mind you. I would not try to change him, because you can't change a guy's feelings.
2006-10-10 22:26:42 · answer #3 · answered by Gregor II 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I Think This Guy Is Keeping His Options Open... He Doesnt Want To Be With Her... It Seems As Though Hes Keeping Her As A "Booty Call"
I Think She Needs To Move On And find A Man Whom Will Treat Her With Respect, Love & Happiness
2006-10-10 22:22:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you got to have a good job to support a family, you cant do it working at mcdonalds, maybe this is what he is thinking...nuthing wrong with wanting a career and a good job..he wont be alone on top, when he is ready he will find him someone right now seems like he is trying to make him self a good life..maybe you should be thinking this way to...she should leave him alone he wants to be her friend and thats all right now..when he is ready and if she is the one he will let her know...she should move on...be his friend but move on for the other stuff....
2006-10-10 22:24:30 · answer #5 · answered by countryrose24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks like this guy friend of hers is having lots of options for choosing his future partner.
the time could have ripened earlier for him to start choosing and that is why he is hesitating.
your female friend should see him lesser and start to have a half-new life over again but not entirely without him because it takes a long time to heal the hurt if he rejects her totally.
tell her to find a decent hobby and avoid the pubs.
she also has her choice of her future partner as there are still many guys out there searching for their partner to start a family.
before your female friend finds a real bf, she should be ready to settle down.
note that she can ask her friend to introduce her a bf other than searching for herself but your friend should know more about the guy before commiting to a relationship.
good luck!
mercury of love
2006-10-11 06:49:28 · answer #6 · answered by mercury of love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your friend, honesty and really does not mind this, and she believes she'll be happy in such a relationship, then i don't see why they shouldn't go ahead and give it a try.
however, one thing you must remember is that you cannot go into a relatioship thinking that things are going to get "better", that you can change a person. your friend may succeed in changing him but then again, she may not - how much of a risk is she willing to take? does she want to invest the time and effort in changing him, regardless of the outcome?
2006-10-10 22:24:58 · answer #7 · answered by una g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should go after another guy. Some where, is a guy whose not only into his carreer, but knows he can have a relationship as well, as his job. Someone who cares about her, but hasn't found her, nor been found by her, yet.
2006-10-10 22:15:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is too young to settle down and wants to build a great career first. i honestly dont think he really wants to be w/her though because one day he will meet a woman he wants to marry and he will. he wont be single forever just b/c he has a career.-
2006-10-10 22:23:13 · answer #9 · answered by 47skittles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think this guy is not really in love with your friend. He just playing around...
2006-10-11 08:48:45 · answer #10 · answered by chow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋