We're in our 50s. 8 yrs ago he was in financial trouble & I 'loaned' him $30,000 that I borrowed. He went 2 yrs w/out so much as paying a water bill. I finally refinanced my house w/ a subprime loan & sold a rental condo to negotiate a settlement on my credit cards, some I borrowed for business before I met him, a lot of it interest over those yrs.
Finally I woke up & insisted he start giving me $200 a week for living expenses. I also started hiding any money I have because he only gives me the $200 when I'm in dire straits.
He wants to share finances & is mad because I won't. He gets mad because he knows I don't tell him everything about my finances. He says the $200 makes him feel like he's paying rent, if he has $500 I should get it.
Problem is when time comes to give up the 500 he's not so willing *if* has it. & I know he'll want 800 back the next week to pay his bills. He's *still* paying 10-yr-old bills.
He thinks he is an equal partner in paying the bills. I'm 2 broke to g
2007-12-08
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