We've lived together all of these years, engaged for 3 yrs (i wouldn't commit),and now I find out he's been cheating for 10 mos. I hacked into his computer, got into his email, chatted with one of the girls, found out he had unprotected sex with her, confronted him, he lied, found out there were others (7), and all were from "Craigslist" so they were strangers. I am 40, he is 36. I have since talked to 2 others who tell me it was casual sex, not a relationship. He promises it stopped months before I found out and he swore to himself it would never happen again. He is very remorseful but I can't get over the fact that he had unprotected sex with these strangers. He knew how I felt about cheating and having unprotected sex (to me it means you don't care enough about your significant other to protect their health). We've gone to counseling, read books, etc.Either I forgive him and keep him or decide I can never forgive and loose him. How do I decide if our relationship is worth the pain?
2007-11-17
14:19:08
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rabbit4041
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Marriage & Divorce