COPS can you help??

Question

okay i am tired of being treated like **** at home and i want to go live with my moms friend or my grandmaw but my mom told me i couldnt b/c she wanted to torture me b/c i have ruined her life and im everything she didnt want in a daughter i have an older brother (17)they get him everything but me (15 in jan) i have to do stuff to get money just to go and buy stuff i have to have for myself like my monthy cycle and if i need something for school etc. i have ranaway 2 times b4 and the 1st time i got a warning the 2nd time which i just got off of probation 2weeks ago i was on probation for 8 months but its like i cant do anything to earn love from my parents i dont know what to do any more they have me on the edge of running away and im about 95% to the point where im going to runaway and make sure i get locked up that way i can be away from them with someone who alteast slighty cares about me im not doing things a teen shouldnt be doing for clothes food tampons etc. so please help me

Answer 1

I'm not a cop. However, I AM a parent. So... life sucks at home? That happens. Now, what you have to ask yourself is, do you feel lucky? Sorry, wrong movie. Ask yourself if the alternative is better. If home sucks SO bad, then maybe living in juvenile detention is preferable?

If not, then you've answered your own question. Home doesn't suck as bad as you described it. Now, face facts. You're going to have to live with it. There is NO choice out there that is going to give your peace and harmony and lifetime happiness living under your own rules.

Whether at home or somebody else's home, you're still going to have rules to follow and it only looks better elsewhere until you get there.

I had that with one son. He thought it was so much better at his buddy's house, and his buddy's parents were so convinced that they could raise my son better than me. (Presumptuous of them, but just to make a point, I let them try.) They ended up kicking out my son two weeks later AND wanted me to pay for the two weeks they supported him.

Which is why your mom isn't going to let you live somplace else. Get over it, Princess, life isn't meant to make you happy. Your mom is trying to prepare your ungrateful self for the additional grief you're going to get when you have to face life alone as an adult.

If you don't have the patience for 3 more years at home, then you won't have the patience for 4 years of college to get a decent job skill, and you sure won't have the patience to put up with a jerk of a boss all because you don't have any particular skills that make you more valuable to the company.

Answer 2

I would have to know if your behavior may be the reason you are being treated this way, Maybe you do not show a lot of responsibility and your mom is trying to teach it to you. If you really feel as if you are being abused, 1-800-96-abuse. other wise try asking your parents what you can do to earn their respect. I have a hard time believing they do not love you or the would not have bothered to file a report when you ran away because they would not have cared what you were doing or where you were at. The idea of them making you earn your own money will only make you more responsible and capable when you become and adult. And if you can move out, get a job, finish school and provide for yourself then try to get emancipated

Answer 3

Leslie, I am not a cop (I WISH I WERE) but I am old enough to be your grandmother. I am so sorry you have such unappreciative parents. I raised 4 girls and my oldest daughter passed away. I can not imagine treating any of my children that way. Please do not run away and get into to more trouble. If you could just try to do what they want for 2 more years and then get a job & an education then you could take care of yourself and would not have to report to anyone but you. A sugar Daddy is only another bad person for you to have to try and please so that is not the answer.Try to be patient and you will have to grow up fast unfortunately. I will keep you in my prayers. You are still just a child and should not have these kind of problems, but evidently your parents never grew up or they would not be treating a child in this maner.
THINK SMART

Answer 4

You are young enough to go to children's protective services or social services and talk to someone there. You can also talk to a counselor at school if there is one there or perhaps even legal aid may be able to help. One thing further is to go to a site like one I will give you to build up your self esteem since I am sure that this has hurt yours. Parents are supposed to care for their children but sometimes that doesn't happen Remember what Richard Bach said in his book Illusions" Rarely do members of one family grow up under the same roof. By getting some help you may find someone to act as a mother as a mother should and not as your biological mother is doing. Remember to talk to everyone you can to try to get help and do not accept the limitations you have now. Again as Richard says, Argue enough for your limitations and they become yours. Good Luck to you!!