I have a question dealing with my boyfriend (BF) and my family. My BF and I plan on getting married in 2 mos. at a courthouse (we don't care for ceremonies). My parents want to be at there, even though it's more of a formality than an event. My BF, who is not close to his family and doesn't like hanging out with people who "inconvenience" him (abusive upbringing), doesn't want anybody to be at the courthouse. I do not care either way, but my BF states that when telling my parents not to come to the courthouse, I should say that "we" don't want them to come. I am stuck in the middle b/c I want to please both my parents and BF. If I tell them the truth about my BF's feelings and reasons to my parents, he thinks that I do not support him and am betraying him. Since my parents are Thai-American, family is important and I believe what my BF wants will hurt my parents. I can't talk to my BF b/c I get emotional -- he then gets angry and yells violently, which I am not use to. What to do?
2007-06-07
05:09:11
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Felixia_75
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