Is it usual for a Indian man who is 29 years old to still have his parents decide who he will marry or who he won’t marry?
Why won't he's parents let him marry the girl he wants to marry...instead forces him to marry a girl whom they chose for him or incase it is love marriage, then he only can marry a girl of his race...
Why because parents brought you into this world -they think you owe it to them to marry someone who they chose for you...I mean in the end its you whom will marry the person and have to live with that person not your parents, and sometimes even when the marriage is sour- you have to stay in that marriage just because you don't want to put disgrace on your family and don't want to have to face society- that is why sometimes arrange marriages last longer...
And this thing about mothers fearing that if their Indian son or daughter marries a non- Indian, then that generation will loose their culture forever…Don’t the parents trust their Indian sons or daughters to teach the non Indian spouses and kids the culture?
If you’re an Indian and your child decides that they will marry someone of a different race, you should be happy for them, instead of looking what nationality they are- You should be more interested to find out whether that person is good at heart or not hence and suitable match for your child, instead of just thinking because this person is not Indian by heritage…therefore there is no way that the marriage will last…
I can tell you that I know a lot of Indians who had an arrange marriages yet they are not happy, and although they want out- they hang on in their just to keep their parents happy…
There is good and bad in every culture, Indian mother’s constantly be saying to their sons “oh I will find you a goddess Indian girl, because only Indian girls make good wives” but see not every Indian wife is going to be a goddess, and not every woman who is from the west is going to cause trouble in marriage, having affairs, getting divorced etc…(as Indian parents assume).
I know Indians who marries non-Indian and the marriage last..
Same as I know Indians who marries other Indians from which their parents chose. Which didn’t last..
And to say that it will be harder for the couple because it is an interracial marriage- is just barbaric, but see sometimes its not society who makes the couple face hell but it’s the very parents who didn’t want to accept the marriage since day one.
People should be more open minded……
What are your views?
2007-06-05
14:18:03
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Marriage & Divorce