I'm a FTM, female to male transsexual. Before my transition, I was labeled as a "butch lesbian" and that's kinda what *I* thought I was too..so..I dated other lesbians. Since my transition, I have started seeing a kinda soft butch lesbian woman. We've been close with each other for a little over a year. We both know we love each other very much. We spend almost every day together. Her daughter is very comfortable with me. It's like we're together, but we're NOT together. She finally told me that the reason she can't be in a committed relationship with me is because she's a lesbian and I'm not. She said I go outside the "spectrum" of what she's comfortable with dating.
Keep in mind, everything else about us is pretty much a relationship. We sleep together, share our fantasies and dreams with each other, she cries on my shoulder..all that stuff.
She just won't commit because she says now I'm "too much like a guy". It hurts and I don't know what to do. Any advice?
2007-05-14
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Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender