my husband had an affair about two years ago. i found out that it had been going on for about 9 months. at first he lied about it (even though i figured something happened) for a long time, then he finally admitted that he did have sex with the woman. we have been trying to work it out, but he refuses to go to couples counseling. he tries to make it up to me in other ways, such as we started going to church, he calls me and lets me know where he is, etc. but he will not go to counseling despite our numerous arguments about the subject. his thinking is that i can just get over it by myself, and that he does not want to keep reliving the issue. i have threatened divorce, had verbal fights, etc. and he doesnt seem to change his mind about counseling. he thinks that i am the one that needs couseling since i am having a hard time dealing with the pain. he says that he has done everything to try to make me feel better and has asked for my forgiveness, but he will not go to counseling. HELP!
2007-05-11
06:08:34
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eliza l
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Marriage & Divorce