I find it hard work to be really social and outgoing at a party or function. Why is that? I find a lot of "small talk" (especially drunken small talk) to be mindlessly boring and so I lose interest in the whole thing. I don't mind if I'm talking to interesting people about things that I am interested in, but when the conversation is just rambling on just for the sake of talking I just tune out. I can't help it. Is there something wrong with me? My friend yesterday said that I am "not social", like that was something for me to be ashamed of or that it is a problem. He more or less said I was eccentric and weird. Do we all have to be outgoing and bursting with confidence? What about people (like me) who are a little more reserved and don't particularly like social cliches, but prefer things to flow more naturally (if you know what I mean). Now I feel like a social outcast, like I am some kind of a pathetic freak. :-(
2007-04-22
11:24:59
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