Okay, Here is my situation I have been in a relationship for almost 3 years. At the beginning it was an answered prayer (literally). Actually, it was the best thing for me at the time. It has enabled me to be a stronger woman & learn how to have a "healthy" non-abusive relationship. But, at the same time my intuition tells me we are is as far as we'll ever get. I want more and he just can't or won't give more or move on from the past relationships that have severely damaged his ideas of a commitment & long-term relationship. ( Our ideas of a relationship are completely different) I have reaped his "bad past" long enough, he just will not open up to me on certain issues, & I can't help him with them. So, On the 17th of this month, after a year of discussing & planning I decided to moved out of "our" house & get my own place again. There are just to many issues that absolutely need to be resolved before "this" relationship can grow any further. For myself...If I don't resolve the issues that hinder me I will never be able to be a mentally healthy woman. I can't resolve these issues with no one else, I have to do this myself. No one can help me with them & The same for him. This is reality- not an opinion or emotion. He has helped me in this transition being very understanding & supportive.(We are still together, just living a part) BUT....
My woman intuition tells me that I need to end our relationship completely, I feel like I am not an important part of his life, that he takes me for granted. He says, "I am" but, his actions are totally different from his words. I have almost always felt like I was "on the side", that quality time with me is not an issue for him. He has always pushed the issues of quality time to the side saying, "we have 30 or more years for it, but I NEED more & no matter what I say or do I D'ONT get it. I battled this issue with him for almost 2 yrs now. I am tired of repeating myself.
In the beginning, he was everything in a man I desired... He is truly a good , decent, caring, loving man, but at the same time he is self-centered and extremely selfish. I reap the bad that has happened to him, I love him ....What do I do?
How do I let go the best thing in life that has happened to me?
2007-02-25
02:59:07
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