My boyfriend and I have been through alot together, but it's gotten to the point where I can't handle it anymore. It got out of control just this past Tuesday, he was being all jealous and possesive, calling me a lesbian because I was walking arms-linked with my 2 best friends. I walked away from him for being immature, then we got to the bus-stop, he came upto me yelling and swearing, making a scene and causing me to break down right there. I walked away still crying, and he ran after me, telling me I have 5 minutes to either return to him, or it would be over. I never went back. Can you blame me though? He came crying to me the next day, apologizing. I was just about to, until he said he expects me to admit i'm wrong for having left him. Now he's threatening to kill himself if I leave him again, and he does drugs, so i'm really scared he just might do it. He said he loves me, but i'm just not feeling it anymore, and now i'm too scared to even get out of this. What should I do? ='(
2007-02-25 02:59:39 · 23 answers · asked by princess3arabi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get away. he's not stable. if he's willing to kill himself, what would stop him from killing you first, then himself. go somewhere safe... somewhere he can't find you. call him. tell him it's over. if he threatens to kill himself, and you think he's serious... call the police and tell them the situation, as well as his location. then call him back and tell him he'd better not have any drugs out... you don't want to get him in trouble for that (that would make him really mad at you.. even more scary), you just need to make sure he doesn't do anything stupid.
2007-02-25 03:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by Emily H 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you are not satisfied with this relationship anymore, so, if you are decided to finish it just do it. You know it's the best for you so you have to do it.
I believe when someone threaten to kill himself, he won't be able to do it, hi si using this to manipulate the people around him.
I understand your concern, since you have had a long time relationship, you have to have feelings about him yet, but you have to think about yourself, and the responsability of his actions are only his.
What you can do to feel better about this is try to talk to some person who is close to him, some friend or relative, and tell that person what he told you, let that person know that you cannot do anything, since this will hurt you, and that you are letting him or her know this so they try to help your ex.
After that you have to walk away and never look back, don't accept any calls, don't try to know about him, take as much distance as you can, because he will try to manipulate you, and can tell you so much things that can hurt you or make you feel guilty.
Good luck on that.
2007-02-25 11:14:39 · answer #2 · answered by Popocatepetl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out, run don't walk. He will not commit suicide, men will say anything to make you stay. He slander you and he did it in public!!! It sounds like he is jealous of everyone, and you like making him feel that way, jealous of everyone that you come in contact with. The public slandering is uncalled for. Listen to your heart, do you love this guy? Do not ever play games with the heart, it will come back and bite you right where it hurts. It's your call. If you take him back, the games have to stop, then you have to be a couple and quit hurting each other. I really feel like both of you are contributing to this problem. The games need to stop or someone if not both of you will end up hurt.
2007-02-25 11:12:59 · answer #3 · answered by Cheryl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people who really think of suicide dont use it as a threat to another person.
Verbal abuse is a lot worse than physical abuse in the long run.
Tell him he needs to choose you or the drugs and if he gets mad at that, then you know hes just using you .
if he breaks down then be a friend to him and tell him youl get him some help.
He's got to learn to love himself before he can ever truly love you
whatver you do, dont stay in a relationship with him the way he is right now. you'll end up very hurt or worse.
good luck
2007-02-25 11:16:29 · answer #4 · answered by Cody 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He won't kill himself he is just trying to control you and most likely the drugs he is doing is doing the talking tell him he needs to get help and if he doesn't that you will not stay with him because you cannot stand the way he is treating you.
2007-02-25 11:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now!! Go as far away as you can get and don't look back. Your not responsible for this guy. He is an abuser and is just looking for the excuse to hurt you. He may kill himself, but more than likely he'll throw himself on the mercy of courts for killing you. Run.
2007-02-25 11:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I am not an expert ,but I have been in a seriously abusive relationship. My husband abused me for a very long time. It took me 10 yrs to get out & stay out.
Listen to me carefully...I don't know how old you are , and or all the details but...GET OUT>>> GET AWAY>>>this is NOT healthy or safe for you!!!!!! Ask for help, go to some one you can trust ( parent, friend, relative, anyone that will listen) anyone that will help you, explain to them what is happening.
Look, I know and understand it is easier said than done, but get some help. This will not be easy for you , but think about yourself.
If you just want to talk try this hotline...The number is 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Also, check out this website....http://www.ndvh.org/help/teen-help.html
ALSO , PLEASE TRY TO REMEMBER THIS : LOVE IS NOT THREATS OR HURTFUL WORDS...
2007-02-25 11:27:35 · answer #7 · answered by Cajun_ Creater 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can NOT stay in this relationship because he says he will kill himself. Get away from this ASAP. It 's not your fault, don't blame yourself. He is very immature and thinks he can keep you by saying this. He is wrong. Just tell him you are thru and have no further contact with him. What kind of future do you see in this kind of relationship? Move on, you are better than this.
2007-02-25 11:07:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
GIve him a second chance.Maybe he's loves you too much that why he's over controlling you and being jealous's .He loves you and just really scared in case you end up being a les..Cause he really do not want that to happen.Believe me,i dont think he really want you to go.Maybe that time when he was yelling and swearing,he was just too stressed and couldnt control his emotions..And i dont think he really mean his words when he says he's gonna kill himself..I mean,it reallly takes so much courage to just end your life like that...Maybe he just says that so that you will say yes to him and accept him back.And probably he said it because he feels that without you it's like leaving in hell..and might as well die..that kinda thing..If you really love this guy,give him a second chance.And hopefully he'll change for the better.
2007-02-25 11:07:58 · answer #9 · answered by Angel_Love 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
That's what he wants you to think, that he'll kill himself if you leave him, because then he has control over you; get out of it and don't look back. Seems to me that even if he does kill himself the world is well rid of him.
2007-02-25 11:04:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋