She called today while I was at work, & I said, "Hi, What's up?" She replied, "Hello, mother. How are you today?" as if that's what I SHOULD have said instead of "What's up?" I apologized for not calling over the weekend & said I'd been busy. Then she sounded annoyed at that. She was abused as a kid & never had a good relationship with her own mom for that reason. As a result, she turned into a mother that's also emotionally abusive on one hand but smothering on the other. I can't handle it! I feel HORRIBLE for her that she never got love from her mom (who never sent a birthday card & rarely called) & now my mom must feel "abandoned" by me too, but I don't know how to even really be around her. I never really dealt with the issues I have with her. I tried talking to her but all she says is, "I know I've been a good mother." She doesn't want to acknowledge our emotional issues & thinks mothering is only about providing clothes, food, etc. It is but there's more to it, no? I'm 34.
2007-01-17
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