2007-01-17 05:37:57 · 34 answers · asked by Sara Hitchens 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
1. It's not always hard for parents to accept.
2. Some parents see their child's sexuality either as a failure on their part (What did I do to 'make' him/her gay?) or as an end to a dream (No church wedding, no grandchildren, etc). If the parent believes it is wrong in some way, it adds to the confusion, anger, and embarassment.
Personally, I love my son. Period. He's two now, and I'll love him just as much if he's gay, straight, or asexual--as long as his partner is of legal age, human, and loves him somewhere near as much as I do, I'll be happy. It's sad that not all parents feel the same way.
2007-01-17 05:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by Christal 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It wouldn't be hard for me to accept...my only pain would be from society not accepting my son/daughter and the torment they might suffer as a result. I would also be disappointed about not having grandchildren from that child, but no more so than if any of them decided not to have children--gay or straight
Nothing in this world could ever make me stop loving or accepting my child--nothing...and I truly don't understand how parents can turn their backs on their child out of shame. Mystifying
2007-01-17 05:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by єЖтяα ¢яιѕρψ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My mother had a hard time accepting when I came out. Havent found the right woman etc.
I think in some case such as mine a parent, especially the mother, thinks their children with grow up get married and have kids that they can spoil.
In other cases like my stepfather they are homophobic. I wont say religion because no religious member has been able to provide a rational arguement proving it. Sure its against canine law but its not against God's love.
2007-01-17 05:49:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe that when parents decide to have a baby that things even change in the family then. As that child grows; parents make expectations for that child. I just believe that some parents are disappointed when they realize those expectations will never be realized.
2007-01-17 06:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by Merilee L 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's because you imagine that living as a gay person will be harder and you want the best for your kids.
When you're coming out, you might want to tell EVERYONE but it's important to know that there are some you can tell and some that it would be painful for you and for them and do no good at all - not necessarily parents, but friends, other family, etc.
Torch Song Trilogy is a movie with some interesting takes on this.
Best thing for gay kids to do when coming out to their parents is to get them information on PFLAG. It can help parents cope with their fears.
2007-01-17 05:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by Shrieking Panda 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There are problem-free stereotypes that over the approach a newborn's existence receives reenforced, like if one were having a daughter, the mothers and fathers might want to imagine giving the newborn away at her wedding ceremony, and having toddlers, and so on. the 2d is what the mothers and fathers imagine the community thinks. They problem about how they are going to be perceived, and in some conservative communities, it would want to be a mirrored image on 'undesirable parenting'. i'm having my first newborn quickly, and the in common words expectation i'm carrying so some distance is her to sense free and healthful. that is the in common words mantra i want repeated - i will inform you in 18 years if it alterations.
2016-10-15 09:03:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they think that somehow it is their fault -- that they did something wrong when they raised the child. I would get literature for the parents that explains exactly how "GAY" comes to be -- it is NOT taught, it is NOT caused by watching the wrong shows on TV -- it is NOT learned -- it is an actual belief of the "GAY" person that they are a certain gender in their mind but just in the wrong gender body -- and it's NOT anyone's fault -- NO ONE's!!!!
2007-01-17 05:45:05 · answer #7 · answered by Dozyjozy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps they see a child who will live a tough life. Perhaps they view gay people as bad. Perhaps they view gay as being abnormal.
I don't find that strange at all. We want the best for our kids and the best is to be straight and "normal". That does not make gay bad, but to most parents, gay is less than optimal.
2007-01-17 05:44:17 · answer #8 · answered by united9198 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because people believe that being homosexual is a CHOICE and not a clear difference in their genetic make up. They have chemical differences in the brain which makes them desire the same sex. It's trait one can have same as eye color or hair color. Too many people are too ignorant to look at scientific research that proves it!
I do have to say if my child told me she was bisexual and just wanted to enjoy both sexes, I would have a problem with that. People should make a choice and not blame being gay on simply not having morals. Still, people are entitled to their own choices, but I wouldn't support my daughter's choices in that itself.
2007-01-17 06:21:23 · answer #9 · answered by angie_laffin927 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some people are just ignorant. There are some parents who will accept their child. For some parents its the fear that their child won't be accepted into society, or that they wouldn't be able to carry on the family name to the next generation. There are a whole bunch of reasons. Hopefully that the world would come to realize, you can't help who you love!
2007-01-17 05:43:59 · answer #10 · answered by crodriguez1010 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋