My native-German husband is 36, six foot, and weighs 270 lbs. He has high BP and is pre-diabetic. Five years ago when we were engaged, he was 190. He cooks and eats what he wants, drinks about 4 to 6 drinks an evening - up to 18 drinks on a weekend day. He has food binges late at night while watching violent movies after I go to bed. When we got married, my impression of him was of an active, outdoor kind of guy who was into lifelong fitness. Not one to nag, I've recently tried to be helpful with, "I love you and want you to be well", do it for our son, healthy food suggestions, be inspired by his father's own efforts, enlisting help from his brother as a 'gym buddy', trying to do active things together, modelling good behavior, etc. Zip. BTW, I'v also asked him to get help with his drinking and he insists he doesn't have a problem. At a rough spot in our marriage, I tried ultimatums. Funny thing, he also makes fun of other fat people we know and of me doing yoga. HELP!
2006-12-01
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bklynshanti
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Marriage & Divorce