My wife had an affair; first it started emotional then turned physical then turned into a big mess. She claims she got caught up in the moment and stopped thinking about the family and was acting selfishly for a few months. I am also man enough to say I can take fault for particular things, but by no means condone or justify what she did to me and our family. To start off with we became partially detached for a while we worked different shifts, only seen each other for an hour or two a day, the times we did spend together I was buried in books trying to finish my degree, and due to financial constraints we rarely got to go out. With that being said I always remained faithful and committed to our marriage. I am very conflicted because I still have feelings for her and she still says she loves me, but this is very hard to deal with. We also have a daughter together she is seven. If that was all of the story I probably would still be at the house now working on the marriage, but as they say the plot thickens… She is pregnant and most likely it is not mine. I feel like I am so helpless right now, I cant seem to make a decision either way. I want to remain a family, but will it ever be my family again? Will I ever be able to be happy raising something that is not mine? Will I ever be able to fully love my wife again? Will I ever get over the fear of her cheating again? I am so weak right now and cant seem to find the answers.
2006-11-16
02:43:40
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cheeks230
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Marriage & Divorce