We broke up like a month ago, things vent bad fast but vvere going bad for abot 9 months. we dated for 6 years. Shes going thru a very hard time right now. I find myself doing better then she is and it's killing me to watch her like this. We are talking and kinda hanging out right now but she seems so distant form me. I want her to be able to convide in me but shes holding back. I dont want anthing more then just to help her, shes the most importent person in the world to me. Im not looking for sex or anything like that I want to help her/be with her. So what Im looking for is help on finding a way to make her feel she can trust in me to be the person she can come to talk to. I want to take her out and show her a good time but i still feel like she is still hurt and I want to make it up to her. Please help me figure out a way to get her to hang out with me. so i can show her that someone still loves her.
2006-11-16 02:43:12 · 13 answers · asked by mrlovenbd 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow. Why did you two break up? I understand it was bad. Was it you or her or both that broke it off? And why. Only you and her know. I think this is what you need to talk about with her. Be honest. And be careful not to promise something you do not want to nor that you can deliver on. Your happiness is important as well. Do you have pity for her? Let her know whats in your heart. It is not pity. You truly love her. You know that is ok but you are worried she will fall all over again for you. Maybe you are afraid to totally fall in when you werent in love before. Either way listen to your heart. Good luck .
2006-11-16 02:54:17 · answer #1 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are asking for something that is grossly unfair to her. It has to be her choice. Nothing you say or do can make her want to hang out with you. Telling her how you feel might give her false hope for a reconciliation. You tell her she's important and you want her to feel better, but then leave her alone. My ex called me rattling on and on about how sorry he was (after a divorce, now that's a bad breakup). All it did was hurt me more b/c I was still dealing with his rejection and grieving the loss of our marriage. She's grieving. Let her do it her way in the time she needs.
2006-11-16 10:49:48 · answer #2 · answered by Joanna V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may already know that you still feel for her and doesn't want to lead you on cause she no longer has those feeling towards you and thats why she doesn't want to confide in you.Best thing to do is give her time to sort through her rough times on her own and allow her to come to you if she wants to share her thoughts and feelings about something that is hard for her to get through.Let her know she come come to your and you'll be there for her then just give her the space she needs to work through it and if she needs you then she'll share her bad time with you other than that you can only keep yourself busy and give her space. Good Luck :)
2006-11-16 10:53:14 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMHO If things were going bad and yall broke up...leave her alone...she needs time to heal and lick her wounds...she doesn't need you to keep pestering her...I think she's been distant to help you get the hint that yall aren't what you were, and things are different now....personally move on...the best thing you can do for her right now is give her her own space so she can recover...and mend her heart....
2006-11-16 10:49:50 · answer #4 · answered by scglj031089 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with her. Tell her how you feel. Let her know your motives...make sure she knows they are good, helpful motives. Go easy on her though, if she doesn't want a real big friendship with you, don't take it personally....Just be her friend and let her know that is what you are going out to do.
2006-11-16 10:50:15 · answer #5 · answered by bellebelle113 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her and let he know that you mean it that you just want to help her... Say something like.... You know that I care about you and I know that you and me are not together right now but, I want you to know that I am here for you and if you need someone to talk to and just to cry I am here.
2006-11-16 10:50:05 · answer #6 · answered by miss.lodge_2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try nd talk it out with her,i mean if u knw wht is her weakness,lik some girls tend to respond to her boyfrend (if she has broken up with him)nd he acts emotional with her or sumthng lik tht.im sure tht aftr dating her for 6 years u wud knw her weakness.or maybe if she is sensitive to anything lik flowers,pets or anythng lik tht make use of tht.if she is sensitive to flowers,giv her some flowers with a small card in it telling her hw u feel abt her.and be honest.goodluck
2006-11-16 11:29:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that you should just let her know that your here for her and you still have feelings for her. Taht will make her feel better about herself and the situation she's in, and it will make you feel better BECAUSE you are helping.
2006-11-16 10:52:48 · answer #8 · answered by acollegeangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwwwwwwwwwwww ur sweet. ask her can u hold her and let her cry on ur shoulder or try going somwhere where thers lots of people like a fair get alot of friends together.
2006-11-16 10:47:11 · answer #9 · answered by it's HG !! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you like her to death , you were together for 6 years long time , try to show her how much u love her , GIRLS NEED SAFETY , ask her to marry you ....... FOLLOW UR HEART
( AND PLZ ANSWER MY Q )
2006-11-16 10:59:58 · answer #10 · answered by queeny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋