i love this girl but my best mated joe his bro fancied her and she fancied him help me
2006-11-16 02:42:47 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if shes available ask her out first....dont do that till after a week at least...see if she even cares first
2006-11-16 02:45:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do they still fancy each other, and how long has it been since they did fancy each other? Socially, it is an unwritten rule that you never date your friends ex's. Now, if this is a brother of your friend, but not your friend, then you have a pass on this rule, depending on whether or not this girl is really over her fancy of him. Why would you want to involve yourself with a girl who still fancies somebody else? Wait until you are sure she is over him and then begin finding ways to be around her a lot. After a bit just ask her out and allow her to choose. If she is not interested she will tell you, and you should just take her word for it and find another girl to fancy. There are plenty of girls in the world, in fact there are more girls than men in the world, so you have a better chance at finding a nice girl, than a girl has of finding a nice man. Really, it is true, and most women know they are over populated on this planet, that there really are not enough men to go around.
If you are not friends with the man she fancied, then you are in the clear here, ask her out. If you are a friend of the man she fancied, then you should never ask her out, not unless you first ask your friend if he would mind, and even then you are pushing things. Be very carefull if you are friends with the man she fancied, as sometimes they say they are ok with it but really are not at all, and resentments can grow.
Only you know your relationship with the man she fancied, so make up your mind and decide which is the best way to go here. Good luck and I wish you a great day.
2006-11-16 02:51:15 · answer #2 · answered by Serenity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I really, really loved a girl (who wasn't already married) I would tell her.
In your case I would say to her, "Look, I know my friend's brother loves you, but so do I. I think you are absolutely beautiful and I want to get to know you better. Please say you will go out with me."
Try it - unless of course you don't like her that much or perhaps you are a coward?
By the way - what experience do I have in such matters?
I've been married now for 42 years. I had to fight for her - I won and we still love each other.
No, I wasn't the biggest and the strongest by any means - but nothing was going to stop me getting the girl I loved, and nothing did.
Okay?
2006-11-16 02:50:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
easily. there are a number of categories of love. friendly Love. while a chum loves yet another. i admire my friends. woman and guy. I tell them too. companion Love. Telling your lover which you adore them. It supplies a diverse vibe. family members Love. the affection which you have on your mom and dad/siblings/cousins vice-versa. Unconditional Love. the affection a dogs supplies a human as an occasion. those are basically some i'm able to think of of precise now. i'm specific there are a lot greater available. yet to respond to your question greater needless to say, that's ok that your boyfriend tells his woman friends that he loves them. as long as he's not doing "couple stuff" with them that's ok. If it bothers you that plenty, confront him. tell him it bothers you. yet do no longer seem too clingy you recognize? stable success!
2016-10-04 00:56:26 · answer #4 · answered by lininger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her anyway. He is not your mate he is your mate's brother, so you are not strictly breaking any rules here! She may feel the same way about you, in which case joe's brother has no chance! Hurry in case he beats you to it!
2006-11-16 03:01:04 · answer #5 · answered by Estee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you know your mates bruv really well, tell him first and see how he feels about it. respect his opinion, but do what you think is right. But if you think the girl needs to know, or that you may have a chance with her, or whatever, then i think you should let this girl know and hope for the best.
2006-11-16 02:46:51 · answer #6 · answered by Eden B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her. It's your feelings. Why go through life wondering "What if". Even if she does NOT have the same feelings for you......but what if?
Your friend (best mate) should understand. You can't control feelings, let alone LOVE.
Good luck!
:)
2006-11-16 02:45:38 · answer #7 · answered by Boodie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i know the feeling,just tell her your mate's brother likes her,and ask her like a friend what she thinks about it..there's nothing you can do because she likes him already.you could still try to tell her..about your feelings.this is even better grab your opportunity while you can
2006-11-16 02:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by lady c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, lots of loving going on! Either back off or make the move. Just tell her over a dinner!
2006-11-16 02:46:32 · answer #9 · answered by Apple 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you trying to tell her you would love her if your mates brother loved her also ?
or
Are you saying you love her as well as your mates brother?
2006-11-16 02:50:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think its best u find somebody else. Or if you feel you can deal with it just go for it.
2006-11-16 02:55:31 · answer #11 · answered by Kiwi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋