I am 17 and still in high school. My boyfriend is in the army and stationed 10 hours away(he is in kansas im in texas). When i graduate this may he wants me to come live with him but 3 months later he goes to Iraq for 13 months. I love him with all my heart and he says he can only make it through knowing im here waiting. What if he doesnt come home or if he does and i got tired of waiting. My sister cheated on her husband while he was gone and i dont want to be like that. He is just trying to do whats best for everyone and give himself a better life. Im just SO SCARED. Soi many things could happen.
2006-11-16 02:43:18 · 13 answers · asked by hilarya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You really have to have a strong relationship for it to last. Honey you are too young to try this lifestyle. You have so much of your life ahead of you. If this relationship w/ your boyfriend doesn't work out, beleive me, you will find another person that you love just as much, if not more. Go to College. Concentrate on what you want right now, because after you are married that all changes.
2006-11-17 07:35:02 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess the question is: does your boyfriend wants you to come livewith him or to marry him and live with him as husband and wife before he deploys. If you marry, I do recommend that you spend those three months with him before deploying. You can then return home where you have a good (I am assuming good) support group at home. Cheating on one's spouse is a choice and if you are already thinking about cheating then maybe this is not the start a relationship. If you do decide on marriage, then the Army has many support agencies and assistance for families e.g. family support groups. These services and assistance would be available for you whether you stay in the area or return home. If you return home after you marry, the plan should be to return to live with your husband when he returns from deployment and as mentioned in a previous answer, give it time after he returns from deployment which is stressful for eveyone but can be made into something nice and can help make relationship stronger. Just a thought. Good luck on whatever you decide.
2006-11-16 11:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by tuckld 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not married and you have these issues, do not leave with him he will get over it.
When you love some one truly, you do not get tired of waiting.
This shows that there is some thing a doubt at the least, so wait, just have him come see you send a ticket, instead of your going.
He must be in camp, where will you live, how and who will support you both. Where will you go after he goes to Iraq for 13 months. What happens if you have a baby.
Stay where you are, go to school, batter yourself while he is gone study something useful, so when he is back you will be able to have batter life. Show this to him, both of you are young, you have lots of time to build your individual life and the life together. Think, Think,Think, before you do any thing, if you promise to wait keep your promise if he promises, hope he keeps it too.
2006-11-16 14:57:09 · answer #3 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a best friend who is just a few years older than you, she is a soon to be wife of a military guy. It is really hard on her when he has to go away and stuff, accually they are supposed to get married sept. next year and they are hearing that he might have to go to iraq before then so things are really tough on them right now but she loves him with all her heart and despite the hard stuff she stays strong and just takes one day at a time. She has also thought of the "what ifs" but her love for him always comes first and she would do anything for him, even if it was to graduate, move with him and then he had to leave, at least then she has spent every possible moment with him in the case that something ever did happen, but he seems to love you and if the only thing that will help him make it through is to know you are there waiting for him, he will fight the haredest fight if he had to, to get home to you. I know its hard but if you just stay stong and pray about it things will work out...good luck!!
2006-11-16 11:09:40 · answer #4 · answered by emg2528 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are support groups available for wives and families. Mostly you support him, be faithful, be strong for him, keep busy and give him space to get re adjusted when he gets back because you will both have changed as people upon his return.
some people say it is boring, some say that they are lonely, but it will be what you make of it. I got involved with groups to help others, worked and went to school.
It will be as good or as bad as you make it.
you will have become probably more independent and he will have been in a situation that you will never be able to understand.
good luck to you both.
2006-11-16 10:48:20 · answer #5 · answered by island3girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband is airforce so he doesn't deploy as much or as long as army but its lonely and boring b/c u bascially give up your life for real to go to a place where u know nobody and i barely associate with the other wives b/c many cheat which i don't like and also b/c they gossip tons so its like ur in highschool again.
2006-11-16 10:47:44 · answer #6 · answered by phillygirl513 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same as being a pilots wife, a sailors wife. You either love or you dont love. You are either lonely or make another life for yourself till they come back.
2006-11-16 10:48:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Hilariya.. be hilarious in the considering the life perspective!
2006-11-16 23:09:34 · answer #8 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living on the edge....its your life so choose what you want
2006-11-16 15:52:45 · answer #9 · answered by billu_bhai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like to travel it's good if not i would reconsider, it take a strong women for that you may have to uproot at any minute.
2006-11-16 12:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋