I’m going to attempt to nut shell this story. My best friend, Lauren and I have known each other for over 10 years. We are now both 25. A year ago we became closer than we’ve ever been after having gone through similar break ups, graduating college, and finding independency. We clubbed on weekends and would crash at night at either her place or mine. Both of us are successful, attractive and intelligent women, who have fun, but are also very responsible, sensible adults.
One night at my place we ended up fooling around. This went on for a few months and then we both started dating other people. We decided we would go back to “just being friends” but our urge to be together was so strong that if we were ever alone we would end up in bed together. None of us had ever liked girls before, we have always considered ourselves straight, but now realize that we are both probably bi. This went on for another couple of months of random kisses and touches when we could manage them. And this all went on while we were both starting to get serious with our boyfriends. This became so confusing to us we didn’t know what we were going to do about it, how it was going to affect our friendship and our relationships with our boyfriends. We were also both at the stage where settling down would be the next step in our lives. The secret of being in love with each other (“in love” as in lust+friendship love) was getting too much for us to handle as well as the guilt of then pretending with our boyfriends that we were being faithful to them. At one point the guilt consumed Lauren and she said she couldn’t do it anymore, I agreed. So now we are both back to being friends, even though now and then we may talk about it or joke about it. I don’t know how she is feeling about it because we try not to talk about it too much, but I am still haunted with the memories and whenever I hear her voice I want her all over again, but I don’t say anything.
I love my boyfriend and we are planning on getting married. Lauren is on the same boat.
So my question is, was it cheating when Lauren and I were seeing each other when we had boyfriends? And is it cheating now that we still think about it even though we are no longer physical?
2006-10-25
03:06:20
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