2006-10-25 03:05:22 · 14 answers · asked by Lady_Y 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow, I should be asking this same question. It's hard to answer with no details. Is there any way to work it out? Are there children involved? Have the both of you sat down together and talked about your relationship in a civil manner, and if so what ends up happening? I hope you can work it out, I hope my husband and I can work it out too.
2006-10-25 03:09:46 · answer #1 · answered by Violet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are years, some people have to leave after more years they that. The thing is if you are not getting along, and you can not discuss situations, because they end up in an argument. Why stay together, just because you have been together for 4 years. That does not make any sense. You need, or owe it to yourself to be happy, don't you think so? the best way is to depart as friends, if possible!
2006-10-25 10:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't look at it as wasting four years. Every experience in life teaches us something. If all you do is fight, ask yourself if there is a solution to this. Do you think counseling would help. If you still love each other, then I would say yes, try to save what you have. But from the sounds of it, it seems like the love is gone.
2006-10-25 10:12:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never mind all this bull *hit about "if you love him you can MAKE it work" A relationship is two sided not just one sided, it takes two to tango, and it takes two to carry on a relationship... you need to think of the pro's and con's of this relationship... do the con's out weigh the pro's... or maybe its vise versa... I can't give a proper answer because im in some what of the same position... But do what you feel is right in your heart, no one on yahoo answers can tell you what is right for you, the only person that can do that is YOU!!! I hope i helped, and while im at it maybe i will take some of my own advice!!
*Wink wink* Have a nice day!!
~CHEERS!!~
2006-10-25 10:22:56 · answer #4 · answered by Romy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say counseling...if that does not work, ask yourself "how long am I planning to live like this?" You will know when you have hit your limit....4 years is a long time but 4 years and one day is longer.
2006-10-25 10:09:00 · answer #5 · answered by Emme 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ive tried to save everything and with hes agree we made a deal, i mean never argue again,and it worked another 5 years but now all that ive been trying to do was for nothing.i dont say to let him go but u have to find a way to understeand to eatch other
2006-10-25 10:30:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't argue
listen to your partner
all ideas or thoughts don't require validation through your partners agreeing with you.
you have your own mind....let him yell, blow off steam...then change the subject.
4 years is enough to know that you both have separate brains...use them. you don't always have to be verbal....silence is golden! try it for a couple of months. If you both don't see a little difference then split.....if you do, then pat yourself on the back and smile.
2006-10-25 10:09:50 · answer #7 · answered by DC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love him there should not be so many arguments 4 years is a long time but my not be enough time to realize if you are truly in love
2006-10-25 10:14:05 · answer #8 · answered by Katie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if your still in the same spot with him since four years ago...then YES....are you going to give him another 4 years to waste on your life????? Find what makes you happy and live your life...ITS WAY TO SHORT:) good luck:)
2006-10-25 10:14:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its hardbut it can be done
i think a good lay with a stranger shows you that life goes on
2006-10-25 10:08:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋