I have this bf who seems to care for me but I keep catching him in little white lies, nothing harmful but still, lies. He has this women who calls every now and then, ok fine I have no problem with a man having female friends, but why does she call at 12 midnight. Well I just have this "gut feeling" something else is going on. Who really believes in completley going with there gut in making final decisions.
2006-10-25 03:07:00 · 23 answers · asked by Robynette 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would say that if he has another woman calling him at midnight, you don't need a "gut feeling" to tell you something is up. Sounds like you do have a good sense of whats going on...call it whatever you want, but if you don't fix it now...by talking to him and telling him these things are bothering you...they will only get worse. Either talk or walk...
2006-10-25 03:11:26 · answer #1 · answered by Hopper 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a woman, sometimes your "gut feeling" is the ONLY thing you can really rely on! White lies??? What... like... I weigh 100 lbs, instead of 150 lbs??? Starting off any relationship with dishonesty can't be good. Depending on how long you have been together, and if you have both agreed that you are exclusive. If you are "exclusive", I would consider it disrespectful for my partner to accept a call from the opposit sex at midnight, unless someone was dead or dying! I think that your "gut" is probably right if it thinks you should hit the ground running!
2006-10-25 03:12:59 · answer #2 · answered by Lived Life 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When my son left home for good, I gave him a list of several things that I hope he had learned growing up with me as a father. First and foremost was this: 1: Always listen to your instincts. They will never steer you wrong. If you go someplace and your gut tells you you shouldn't be there...leave. If you talk to someone and your gut says to watch out...get away. Always listen to you instincts. Always. In the 10 years or so he's been an adult, he's told me that piece of advice has saved him time and again from potentially bad situations.
2016-03-28 07:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that I'd call that 'intuition'. I think it's just common sense. No wonder you have this 'gut' feeling. Calling at midnight, hmmm. That would make anyone wonder. And if he tells 'little white lies' a lot then he probably tells big black ones too.
2006-10-25 03:12:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
A woman's "gut feeling" + a quarter = a phone call
A woman's "gut feeling" + a pair of slippers = warm feet
Do you see what I'm getting at? Your "gut feeling" is nothing more than the typical jealous paranoia that infects so many of your gender.
Another woman is calling him. And deep down, you're jealous. So you're ready to accuse the guy of cheating just because he's talking to someone.
2006-10-25 03:15:38 · answer #5 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's lying!!!!!!!!! As far as gut feelings go, trust them. But if he's got females calling him at midnight, chances are there is a lot more going on! Look at what's right in front of your face and you'll discover that you dont need intuition. Good luck!
2006-10-25 03:14:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gut feelings are often our own personal fears, and insecurities. Don't mistake it for something it's not.
Since the guy is already proven himself to be a liar, your gut is going to be in knots because you can't trust him.
If you care about him, and want a long term relationship then call him on his lies when they happen. Watch/listen to his response. He might be trying to impress you with the white lie stuff, therefor damaging his credibility of true self.
2006-10-25 03:12:19 · answer #7 · answered by LucyLinnae M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother (the wisest person I have ever known) once told me: A woman must always follow her intuition.
It's so true! Because normally what your gut tells you is true. Who is this chick calling at 12? That is wrong, as she knows he is with you. Have you asked him about her? And I think if you feel he is telling you whtie lies, he is your man, you know him better than he knows himself. Go with the gut, doll. But talk to him first.
2006-10-25 03:11:36 · answer #8 · answered by Mimi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your intuition is trying to tell you something, yes you should take it into account, but don't use it alone.
Tell your guy that something about his exchanges with her makes you feel uncomfortable. Tell him you don't want to be pushy, and as you said above, you don't mind him having female friends, but just that there is something about the interactions they have ( the times she chooses to call him ) that make you uncomfortable.
Tell him you might feel better if you knew her better, or if you know more of the reasoning behind her calling at such a late hour of the night.
2006-10-25 03:12:28 · answer #9 · answered by lovely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because of our overall nature women are very intuative and believe me its not in your head. If you feel like something is amiss it probably is. I say go with your gut, after all you really are the only person you can trust.
2006-10-25 03:09:45 · answer #10 · answered by arreis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋