My husband wants me to be more “vocal” when it comes to sex. I'm a quite person, I enjoy sex but not like he does. I enjoy being in the moment and being close to my husband, he enjoys getting off. I've never had an orgasm and and I think that is starting to bother him. He wants me to tell him what I like and what feels good but I just don't feel comfortable talking about sex. Also, like I said before, sex feels good to me in other ways then what it does for him. He wants me to play with myself but I've never felt comfortable doing that and I am not sure if I ever will. I tried it once just for him and it did not feel good to me. He is what feels good to me. But I can't get him to understand that he does not understand that its not the type of person I am. He is the only man I've ever been with and he loves that. We have not had sex for over 2 weeks, I know he is waiting for me to “initiate ” it, but I'm not. This is a issue he is having and I think if he wants to talk about it all he has to do is bring it up. Instead he just goes about his day ignoring me on any issue that has to do with sex. If I'm getting dressed he does not look at me, if we go to bed he gives me his back. I'm scared that he is basing our marriage on sex and I feel like that is unfair and I feel like he is trying to make me be a person that I'm not. I'm just not sure what to do anymore. I love him and I know he loves me and we really do have a great marriage. A lot of people look up to us and come to my husband for marriage advice. We are good together and we do a lot together. Its just our sex life that is starting to go sour. Any advice....maybe some web pages I can look at. I would love to be more into sex for my husband. But I feel like he is pressuring me to do it. I feel like if we do have sex, I'm just going to be thinking off all the things I don't do right and then I really won't enjoy it.
2006-09-30
04:32:44
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