2006-09-30 04:32:22 · 16 answers · asked by a flower 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
To me I am still the traditional type in the biblical sense. I don't mind working to provide for my family, that I brought into existence. Had it not been for the man there would be no family. It is he that needs to shoulder the responsibility and not put it on the woman. It is a team that makes it work. A man is replenished and strengthened by a woman's love just as she draws security and well being from his. We should celebrate the differences it's what makes us attracted to each other.
Traditionally people take vows when they marry. These vows are kindred to articles in a contract. Marriage is a binding contract that can be broken if one party doesn't fulfill their contractual obligations, like to stay together in "love and honor and sickness and health and richer or poorer". Not all vows contain these traditional wordings. Some people have open marriages or prenuptials in their marriage contracts. The part's can be made complicated but it doesn't have to be so, especially if God is in the center.
2006-09-30 08:05:43 · answer #1 · answered by FreeWilly 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trying to fit your relationship around prescribed gender roles is just asking for trouble. Every relationship is different and there simply is not a "one sized fits all answer".
Rather than worry about what someone *else* thinks your role in a marriage should be, why not talk it out with your partner?
Traditionally (that is, what "society" says is traditional), men are expected to be the breadwiners, women are expected to stay home and take care of the children and the household. Many people find these ideas oppressive, though - there are plenty of men that love to cook and hang out with the kids and plenty of women that would rather run a law firm and bring home the big bucks. There doesn't seem to be any good reason to cram yourself into someone else's relationship standards if they're only going to make you and your partner feel unhappy and unfulfilled.
Why not do what makes you as a couple happy? A marriage is meant to benefit the people involved, not make the people around you happy. Do what works for your temperaments and your relationship, and you'll find it a lot more rewarding.
2006-09-30 04:46:49 · answer #2 · answered by Missy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this is a serious question, I have a serious answer. My husband and I are reading a book called Love and Respect by Dr. Emreson Eggerichs. It is the best book on communications in marriage I have ever read, and he and his wife do Love and Respect Marriage Conferences in local churches. I have linked his website below:
Married 22 years with lots of peaks and valleys but still committed to our vows!
-kb
2006-09-30 04:42:03 · answer #3 · answered by Kare♥Bear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All depends on the couple. It is something that should be talked about before marriage, marriage is a full time job. You must work on it every day. It is like a garden, unattended you get weest. But taken care of every day you have a beautiful garden.
2006-09-30 04:40:39 · answer #4 · answered by blueyes2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In truth, there is no duty to carry, just be in relationship and , of course, enjoy it...The end of a story begun when mind creates differences, commitments, obligations, duties, rules and regulations, conditions which actually start to run relationship, always to painful end...
2006-09-30 05:58:13 · answer #5 · answered by Oleg B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I have a gutter mind this morning....
In a relationship it is up to the two of them to draw up some kind of guild lines of what is what... My personal belief is that it should be both take equal responsibility. But to each their own.
CyberNara
2006-09-30 04:45:14 · answer #6 · answered by Joe K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The woman's part is to be 100% true to her dreams and abilities and to have no fear of her nurturing qualities, her sexuality and her intellect.
The man's part is to be 100% true to his dreams, to have no fear of his nurturing qualities, his sexuality and his intellect.
Together their job is to accept and make room for their partner to be fully expressed as a human being.
2006-09-30 04:42:56 · answer #7 · answered by Mimi Di 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm marry 2 years ago and trying to find out my self.
I think it's what ever you and him deem to be in another word who wear the pants in the family.
2006-09-30 04:41:49 · answer #8 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be true themselves, to their own unique nature, to pursue their own happiness 100% of the time - this is being strong in love, and is good for the other person - it is standing up straight and it is helping the other person stand up straight -
pursuing your own happiness 100% of the time doesnt mean ignoring the effect your actions have on others, or the other, it means paying best attention to the effects your actions have on others - it means optimising others' behaviour to you - by not hurting them, by helping them
see my other answers
2006-09-30 16:04:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there exists a dominate factor on the mens side. I prefer my women coy and demure.
2006-09-30 04:40:29 · answer #10 · answered by realquietcool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋