Psychology - October 2007

not what controls morality. Both Atheists and Christians feel good when they do something for someone else and unhappy when they wrong someone else. The fictional Bible deals largely with stories of immorality, and is unnecessary if not dangerous.
FOOTNOTE: I suppose there are a few Christians who hate people and only do good because they think it will get them to a mythical Heaven. They are exceptions.
Most Atheists and Christians are good for the same reason. It makes us happy to help someone and makes us unhappy to harm someone. (Atheists do it without that confusing fictional Bible, so I prefer their natural approach.)

SECOND FOOTNOTE: I presume that the believers and non-believers in other religions are similarly motivated.

2007-10-06 14:01:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

And no it's not because I'm a big fat liar!!
I can stare people right in the eye when they're talking to me, but when I reply and start talking back to them my gaze is all over the place and then I start thinking about how rude it must be that I can't look them in the eye, so I'll take a quick look and I'll love that they are looking engaged, but then flitter off looking round the room again!
Why can't I look people in the eye and did anyone ever overcome this and how?

2007-10-06 13:31:44 · 33 answers · asked by Lola 2

http://www.islamreligion.com/articles/424/

“O you who believe! Have fear of God, and be among the truthful.” (Quran 9:119)

Ask the average person to define truthfulness and the answer will most likely be restricted to something about truthful speech. Islam, however, teaches that truthfulness is far more than having an honest tongue. In Islam, truthfulness is the conformity of the outer with the inner, the action with the intention, the speech with belief, and the practice with the preaching. As such, truthfulness is the very cornerstone of the upright Muslim’s character and the springboard for his virtuousness deeds.

The great sage and scholar of Islam, Ibn al-Qayyim, said: “Truthfulness is the greatest of stations, from it sprout all the various stations of those traversing the path to God; and from it sprouts the upright path which if not trodden, perdition is that person’s fate. Through it is the hypocrite distinguished from the believer and the inhabitant of Paradise from the denizen of Hell. It is the sword of God in His earth: it is not placed on anything except that it cuts it; it does not face falsehood expect that it hunts it and vanquishes it; whoever fights with it will not be defeated; and whoever speaks it, his word will be made supreme over his opponent. It is the very essence of deeds and the well spring of spiritual states, it allows the person to embark boldly into dangerous situations, and it is the door through which one enters the presence of the One possessing Majesty. It is the foundation of the building of Islam, the central pillar of the edifice of certainty and the next level in ranking after the level of prophethood.”[1]

2007-10-06 13:30:10 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, I'm an actor and I'm currently working on a tour and am going to start a new one in the near future with a new group of people and a new company.
The problem is, since starting my current job, I realised that I don't have the amazing personality I thought I had. I always thought I had a gift for long, engaging conversations with my friends and when meeting new boys... but no-one in this job ever shows me enough interest to hold a long conversation. My humour is very much based on sarcasm and - I'm sure there's a word for it, but what I tend to do is make jokey assumptions about people to their faces, like, "Oh, you're from Liverpool, glad I put my steering lock on" (ok, I've never said THAT, but I didn't have an actual example to hand!) I know I need to wait a lot longer than a first meeting to be this way but I find sarcasm and this type of humour helps me relax and hide behind this weird front as I don't know how else to be. Also... please see below, running out of room...

2007-10-06 13:19:07 · 18 answers · asked by Lola 2

Say for instance you might hate a public figure/celeb and bad mouth them all the time but if it came to meeting them you would act different. Let me give you an example. I was told a story recently about the taoiseach of ireland bertie ahern. Basically he was visiting the set of an irish program in the ongoing fight to promote the irish language. I was told this from someone who witnessed it. I thought it was hilarious the way he told it. The workers on the set all knew the taoiseach was coming and one woman in particular was giving out sh**it about him coming. She was supposed to of been furious and saying she wasnt shaking his hand etc. Anyways later in the day the taoiseach arrived and he shook everyones hand on the set. This woman who was giving out sh***it about him apparently turned to putty the second he shook her hand :P haha. Is it something to do with these peoples charm that this happens. When that story was told one of the lads butted in and said to .............

2007-10-06 13:08:15 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-06 12:03:36 · 6 answers · asked by Jack K 2

I recovered from major depression several years ago, and recently I've been thinking about and recalling the things of my childhood that made me depressed... and I've sort of been feeling myself spiral back down into that same depression but with added stress from being in college, not being able to find a job, etc... I just feel helpless like there is nothing I can do about it... and I don't want to have to go through the same therapy and several medications I had to before.. I've realized what was wrong and dealt with it and moved on... but now it's upsetting me again... why am I thinking about these things? And what am I supposed to do to stop myself from going into that downward spiral? Any suggestions?? And I don't need any smart people saying things like, "grow up..." or anything else mean like that... this is really upsetting me and I don't know what to do... I don't know how to stop it and I could really use some advice. Thanks so much in advance! :)

2007-10-06 11:52:47 · 3 answers · asked by Irish_Girl860509 3

2007-10-06 11:27:27 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Due to psychological issues I mean: complexes, fears etc.

2007-10-06 11:22:23 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

-How do I engage the conversation?
-What are the questions I should ask him?
- What should I wear?

I prefer am a person with experience in human behavior science or Sociology to answer this. No offence!

2007-10-06 10:54:58 · 3 answers · asked by Xraidedprincess 2

2007-10-06 10:51:09 · 5 answers · asked by LUCKY3 6

more complete and beautiful where there the MAN of a family goes out to work and the Wife looks after "the home"?

I'm not saying the families where women work too, aren't beautiful and complete but there where man works looks MORE elegant. Isn't it?

2007-10-06 10:48:58 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

As a human race we constantly seek answers. What are we looking for?

2007-10-06 10:41:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

into a monster and completely dfferent person in a year's time?And if someone is paranoid secretive,won't let anyone in,picks fights with women,and things of that nature,is it safe vto say that drigs are thye cause?Especially if the guy used to be very polite and well mannered?

2007-10-06 10:19:27 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I had to post this again..I guess anybody can answer this, because no psychologists or counselors must be on right now.
My psychologist said that my molester is a pedophile and that it doesn't matter if I hit puberty at the time of the incident. Would the psychologists on yahoo diagnose my molester as a pedophile (it happened from 12-14, 6th to 8th grade). Do you have to go by the DSM-IV definition where it only says that a pedophile must be sexually attracted to PRE-pubescent kids? It says the age range is 13 years and younger, but we know that 9, 10, and 11 year olds hit puberty now these days.


I don't think it should matter if someone hit puberty, because kids are kids. Am I wrong? These 12 year olds who have their periods, have pubic hair, and wear training bras still look like kids and think like kids for god sake. But this guy told me I was stupid for thinking that and how pedophiles aren't attracted to 12 year old girls with pubic hair and budding breasts.Anybody agree?

2007-10-06 10:04:19 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a co-worker who I've worked with for the past 9 years. He works at my finace's business (hes also a part owner) and I imagine I will be dealing with him for many more years to come. He has always been strange and hard to deal with. Just recently somebody mentioned to us that the behavior we described in him may be aspergers. Ive researched the disease and I am convinced he has it. The thing is, I dont think hes ever been diagnosed. He is very arrogant and I know any mention of him having a disorder and he would go through the roof, claiming he is fine.
He drives us all crazy at work because of his rudeness, arrogance and lack of judgement. We get into fights constantly. I just dont know how to deal with him and it makes it even harder that I know he has aspegers and he doesnt.

Wondering if anyone who has aspergers or anyone who has experience dealing with ppl with aspergers can give me some advice on how to handle this situation.

2007-10-06 09:52:06 · 12 answers · asked by snailysnal 4

what do you think about a person who you see walking down the street who can't make eye contact, walks with a bad posture, and looks nervous? would you find the person looking unattractive, ugly?i'm talking about me. i have social anxiety and go through this most of the time because i'm uncomfortable in my own skin around my others and people always say negative stuff about me that makes me feel down. I feel like if i can be myself than people might actually find me pretty because some people that i am comfortable around tell that i am pretty.

2007-10-06 09:42:27 · 9 answers · asked by geneva1124@sbcglobal.net 1

It's like this, They can be conductors, drivers, whatever. but i just find some of them very attractive and erotic...why?
but i feel guilty...as some of my friends think it's sick!

2007-10-06 08:42:54 · 22 answers · asked by mehreen r 1

Everyone is saying that a positive mind is the key to success, and I have to agree. But what about a person who is negative, cause that's his personality? Can he change himself?

2007-10-06 08:39:12 · 9 answers · asked by larissa 6

2007-10-06 07:55:47 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

i mean how do you tell?

2007-10-06 07:21:34 · 21 answers · asked by curt stuttgart 1

When I read forums and messages I interpret them to be negative. When you read things, you usually can't tell the tone of the message. But for some reason, I always read it to be the negative. When I read video comments on YouTube or even answers to questions here on Y!Answers, unless they are worded precisely to sound positive, I take them to be negative.

This also goes for correction and criticism. For example, when I write a paper for a class, the professor grades it and hands it back. And when I read his/her comments, I always immediately take it to be an attack of some sort. They may disagree with my reasoning on some subject, and I feel anger towards them for critiquing my work. The thing is, though, I am rarely angry about things and I always try to keep an open mind. But my natural reaction to a criticism is always the negative.

I was just wondering if others are similar or maybe have some comments on the subject. I appreciate it!

-Rich

2007-10-06 06:54:58 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im there talking to them and feel like they are there analysing everything and figuring me out. I AM UNFIGUROUTABLE GODDAMMIT!!!!! IM TOO COMPLICATED!!!!!

See, all you psychologists are probably analysing this right now. It is scary.

2007-10-06 06:51:00 · 19 answers · asked by honourableone 3

he flirts with a woman for months ...tells her he's into her..
tells her to come visit him quickly..they live in different states

she visits they get together physically but not sleep

no discussion about feelings takes place
she contacts him to meet up but he doesnt respond
he contacts her afterwards ..all friendly but he doesnt
mention a meet up..she invites him ...he said he will go
but doesnt know when

2007-10-06 06:43:14 · 11 answers · asked by person 1

Death doesn't really happen. It is planted in our mind. "Satan's" dream. "His" vicious vision.
Soon I will wake you up and "Satan's Dream" will be no more.
Good conquers evil. I am good. Satan is evil.

2007-10-06 06:28:25 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm a game - aholic, or at least I was until a couple nights ago.

For years I had been playing the gameboy versions of Pokemon. At first it was just for doctors visits, then to help me sleep, and esculated beyond my controll. Last week, I had a dream that I walked into a bar and the girl forcefully placed what I thought was a peace of candy in my mouth. It turned out to be a Pokemon shape of LSD. Now, I have never taken the drug in my life but from the descriptions of what others had said, I now know the experience and it was not good. So plain and simple: the game is a drug, get rid of it, right? I made the HUGE mistake of discreditting it as just a dream and kept playing only not as much. This last Thursday night I beleive God dealt with me in the harshest form. Thanks be to God! I had a night terror. One of the dream, within a dream, within a dream episodes. Dreaming and knowing full well that I was dream

2007-10-06 06:27:01 · 11 answers · asked by redfeather1972 3

Stars?

2007-10-06 05:44:25 · 28 answers · asked by anil m 6

I took a lady on a date last night. First date I've had in five months.
I have spoken or contacted my ex in anyway in that five months. When I arrived home from the date, I checked my e-mails( i do this daily). I have a message from the ex, With the miss you's and love you's. Strange thing is this has happened before and with different ex's. How do y'all / they do this?

2007-10-06 05:17:40 · 7 answers · asked by david 4

2007-10-06 04:52:23 · 5 answers · asked by Hot Coco Puff 7

If a person grew up in a home where one of their parents was a habitual cheater, is that person more likely to cheat when he/she is married/in a relationship? What if the child never knew that the parent was a cheater until he/she was grown or never found out at all? What if the child hated that the parent cheated and swore he/she would never do that to someone he/she loved?

If you think so, do you think it's something in the genes, or is it a learned behavior from childhood?

If you don't think so, please tell me why.

2007-10-06 04:40:56 · 13 answers · asked by ncgirl 3