Everyone is saying that a positive mind is the key to success, and I have to agree. But what about a person who is negative, cause that's his personality? Can he change himself?
2007-10-06 08:39:12 · 9 answers · asked by larissa 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yes, you can change your mindset.
Cognitive therapy.
I suffered depression for about 14 years and couldn't understand why. I bought an excellent 'self-help' book that changed my life.
I now wouldn't dream of thinking the way I did about 8 years ago. It took a few years to work through the issues but I got there and now, instead of wallowing in misery and looking outwards, I think positive for about 94% of the day and the other times, if I do feel in a down mood, I understand that it will pass and that I will once again, go back to my normal state of having a positive outlook.
It isn't 'easy' but if a person feels so down and has to resort to taking SSRIs for years, then he / she will do all the research they can to change their outlook and how they feel about life.
To say that for one to be positive requires the outlook to be there from birth is incorrect. That thought process in itself is negative.
If I heard that and actually believed it then I most likely would have gone ahead with committing suicide and I wouldn't be here today.
No one comes into this world feeling negative. We learn it the same way if we are supported, we learn that life is safe and that we can have happiness.
I have yet to meet an ill tempered baby - and I don't mean a physiologically ill tempered one, I mean one that is angry or upset just for the sake of it and without a direct outside stimulus. Babies will generally laugh and be very basic in their emotions but when they begin to absorb the subtleties in their environments, that is when they begin the road to negativity.
I am a firm believer that we learn to be depressed and until something happens that make us take control of our minds, we will continue to be depressed and may even spend the rest of our lives in that state, assuming that 'we can never change' or 'that's just the way it is'.
I worked with special needs people for 6 years and I was constantly telling other staff members NOT to make sweeping statements that placed judgements upon the behaviour of them. I was challenged on this but I do not subscribe with labelling anyone because if we allow room for others to make positive changes, then they will.
Self-belief and a supportive environment goes a long way.
2007-10-06 09:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by KD 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What I've seen a lot of, are people with this negative personality. Everywhere you go there the people that become the managers and owner of a business. Trying to think positive. Be really nice too others. Kind of sucks!! There are too many mean people in this world! No I don't think the guy will change either. Until he really get a reality check, no he won't change. A lot of times it will take hitting rock bottom before someone changes for the better!! Good luck and be careful!!
2007-10-06 08:51:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've heard that over time people's personalities can change. Life's circumstances can sometimes force us to change to it's reality verses what we want it to be. I think SOME people can become more positive through self effort but it's tough - like creating a new path in a jungle. I heard a doctor say that 90% of what we thought about yesterday we'll think about today. I do notice though that a lot of old people laugh more than other ages. Perhaps they've realized life's too short to be stressed out all the time.
2007-10-06 08:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by Lover of Blue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Positivity/Negativity comes from a lot of different things. The way your brain functions, the environment, how one were brought up, genetics, personality, etc.
If someone has the will power, support and persisitance, I believe they can become a more positive person.
2007-10-06 08:43:45 · answer #4 · answered by bearofthesnow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes indeed. While it is challenging trying to change ones internal dialog and thought patterns, it is nevertheless possible. It may or may not require some assistance in the form of counseling/therapy but regardless, it fundamentally requires whole-hearted disciple and commitment to see such a change come to fruition.
Yes, you can deliberately learn to adopt a more positive attitude!
2007-10-06 08:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by drewster 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are born out side of the US, and both parent are citizen of the united state, then the baby is a citizen of the united state too. If both of your parents are us citizen, then this would have been taking care of at the birth of the child. This is a question for a lawyer, on citizenship. Now the bad news, your friend can not run for the presidency. But watch Arnold, if any one can get away with it, it will be him. that will paved the way of others. But it will take a constitutional change.
2016-05-17 10:21:52 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personality has SO much to do with it. i don't know if he can change himself, because personality is intangible and is not easily changed. the only way he can get more positive is to make him try to forget the negative events that happened to him, and make him feel that positivity with a good attitude can lead to success.
2007-10-06 08:42:52 · answer #7 · answered by hello 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I've heard once that we are born with only two fears...the fear of loud noises, and the fear of falling. Everything else is taught to us as we grow.
A negative mind is taught, it can be untaught. A positive mind is taught, you don't want to undo that but it can be.
A 'positive mind ' is like ' knowing beauty'. It is a learnt and taught thing.
2007-10-06 08:47:34 · answer #8 · answered by the old dog 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Definitely, but it takes an open mind and a desire to want and learn how to do it. If they don't have that, then they've pretty much sealed their fate.
2007-10-06 08:59:15 · answer #9 · answered by Happy Little Moron 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋