Gender Studies - October 2007

Rio recently said something regarding degradation and sex about the women needing to be 100% willing. Of course, I agree with her. All decent people should agree with the message of, "No means no", but here I am more concerned about "yes".

Whether in an encounter or a lengthier relationship, is there some way that you let men know whether you are "100%" as opposed, perhaps to thinking you're settling, feeling disappointed and resentful toward him, and believing you deserve better?

If I am with a woman and discover she felt this way, I feel like I've used and taken advantage of her. And I've had women tell me as much.

Is there some way to avoid taking advantage of women in this way, apart from celibacy? Is there some way to know early on, rather than after the fact?

2007-10-05 02:22:46 · 11 answers · asked by Gnu Diddy! 5

Sorry abt the question, but its been a really long time I been bugging to know why. I myself had a gal now, who is really this character, and she even agreeds that.

Is there any scienctific answer to this taboo?

2007-10-04 22:31:15 · 9 answers · asked by dcemb_tang 1

I just spent the last 20 minutes laughing at the comments.

http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2007/10/03/help-a-humanist/

"My friend is pretty awesome but privileged enough (white, male, Christian, middle class, etc.) that he has trouble identifying his own privilege and identifying lack of privilege in others. He doesn’t believe the patriarchy exists, for example, and whenever I try to explain it to him I just get really upset and start crying. Not productive. I think the most annoying thing, though, is that he professes to believe in the goals of feminism but thinks it should be called… humanism. He also believes that rampant “misandry” gives some credence to MRAs. Ugh. How can I begin to guide him in the right direction? I don’t think he’s a lost cause. If you can point me towards a previous post or pose the question on a thread or something, I would be so grateful. I don’t even know where to begin. Thanks!"

2007-10-04 22:01:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

-to help support men and the issues of inequality that they face in todays society?
And if we work together and have some more understanding, what are some of the issues that can be helped to solve?

2007-10-04 21:11:24 · 14 answers · asked by Shivers 6

Would you prefer a woman whose manner was dismissive, self-righteous, dogmatic, and sometimes insulting, but who happened to be traditionalist?

Or would you prefer a woman who was curious, open-minded, supportive, and friendly, but tended toward feminism?

I need to take an early night. Later.

2007-10-04 19:03:36 · 12 answers · asked by Gnu Diddy! 5

State Your:
Gender:
Nationality:
Age:
Scale of dislike: Number of # out of ten for:
ifeminist.com:
antimisandry.com:
Reason for liking or disliking one or the other, or both. Thank You.

2007-10-04 18:54:04 · 4 answers · asked by Ashleigh 7

State Your:
Gender:
Nationality:
Age:
Reason for liking or disliking one or the other of, or both. Thank You.

2007-10-04 18:48:56 · 10 answers · asked by Ashleigh 7

In your quest to dismantle the sinister Patriarchy wherever ye may find it, have you ever conceded or even noticed that there are some components which have served, and will continue to serve humanity well if only you stop resenting them on principle?

2007-10-04 18:46:54 · 3 answers · asked by Hooked On Colonics 1

"In the patriarchy, the worth of a mother or the expectations of a mother are determined/constructed by dominant themes of the dominant gender."
Agree or disagree and why?

2007-10-04 18:28:34 · 11 answers · asked by Deirdre O 7

Several studies all over the western world have shown that women lie about who is the father of their child between 10 and 40% of the time. Average is 22%, so as a man if you have 5 children in all probability one of them isn't actually yours.

With figures like that how can a man trust any woman?

2007-10-04 17:42:00 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I don't think its fair personally. It makes women (and other people who benifit from it) less equal.

Theres nothing empowering about reciving someones pity handouts.

2007-10-04 15:51:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Just curious as to what occupies their time when the empty nest sets in.

2007-10-04 14:44:45 · 13 answers · asked by Mandy M 3

I was doing some research it I found that many radical feminists claim to be against BDSM for women saying it degrades them and shames them as women. Others argue that whatever one chooses to do in their bedroom is one's own business and there is nothing wrong with it unless both parties involved consent to it.

I don't understand why feminists are supposedly against BDSM.

2007-10-04 14:23:40 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-04 13:45:24 · 25 answers · asked by affabledude2000 2

I think he is a women hater. He is always making rude comments about his sexual problems. What kind of doctor do you think he is? I bet he's a proctologist and he brings all of his work home.

What do you think?

2007-10-04 13:02:39 · 23 answers · asked by laura seeks the Kwisatz Haderach 4

what were women roles back 100 years and what are they now, do you think its a dramatic change? and i would also appreacite any other thoughts of yours upon this subject.

2007-10-04 12:34:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

So, if everyday feminists recognise their leaders do not advocate the 'core beliefs' of feminism, why do they refer to themselves as 'feminists' when it's so obvious the label means nothing anymore?
By labeling as 'feminist' you're effectively saying "I advocate misandry, female supremacy, child abuse, defending abusive mothers, criminalizing male behaviours, etc. etc." - yet you state this is NOT what you seek, so WHY label yourself this way?

2007-10-04 12:27:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Feminism has a stained name - even feminists acknowledge this.
Now, we know why this has come to be, it is with thanks to the likes of Dworkin (absolute misandrist), Mary Daly (banned boys from classes/accused them of being dumb) and even feminist politicians like Patricia Hewett who was found guilty of sex discrimination, and Hitlary Clinton who is a husband beater (glass ashtray over his head/claw marks in his face).
So, we understand 'WHY' this has happened, but I want to know - what can we men do to help feminists (and I mean the ones who claim to be feminists, but actually seem to be more about 'equality' and 'truth' as oppose female supremacy & misandry) reclaim some dignity & respect?
What do you think?

2007-10-04 11:34:41 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Call the women's sabre toothed tiger violence hotline?

2007-10-04 11:00:33 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have heard that;
Men do one thing at a time correctly.
whereas;
Women do many things wrong concurrently incorrectly.
What is the truth.

2007-10-04 10:51:23 · 32 answers · asked by interested_party 4

I ask this because many women feel that men oppress them, they blame patriarchy for all of the f***ed up things in society, but to me it seems that women like being in their places and so way some how they benefit from patriarchy. What do you think?

2007-10-04 10:50:30 · 15 answers · asked by Believe 2

Weakest Link hostess Ann Robinson has been told she must pay alimony to her former husband. Alimony was invented in order to make men cough up so is it right than a woman should pay?

http://living.scotsman.com/index.cfm?id=1571972007

2007-10-04 10:35:14 · 8 answers · asked by celtish 3

No, the US can't go all around the world fixing all inequities, even when they border on slavery and imprisoment of all females in a country. However, does that mean we shouldn't try to fix this any where that we can?

This is not an issue of WMDs or madmen. This is a moral question whether you are faith driven or secular. Every women in a country as a 1000th rate citizen if a citizen at all. Say what you want about the rest of it but, if this can be stopped isn't it a worthy cause?

2007-10-04 10:08:09 · 12 answers · asked by karate 3

These two girls I know were drunk at a party and they tried feminism. All the guys seemed to like it. They both said it was fun but not really their thing. Should they all try it?

2007-10-04 10:07:23 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

"If we took away women’s right to vote, we’d never have to worry about another Democrat president. It’s kind of a pipe dream, it’s a personal fantasy of mine, but I don’t think it’s going to happen. And it is a good way of making the point that women are voting so stupidly, at least single women.

It also makes the point, it is kind of embarrassing, the Democratic Party ought to be hanging its head in shame, that it has so much difficulty getting men to vote for it. I mean, you do see it’s the party of women and “We’ll pay for health care and tuition and day care — and here, what else can we give you, soccer moms?"
- Ann Coulter

2007-10-04 10:01:23 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-10-04 09:29:27 · 21 answers · asked by Lioness 6

We all know that sarcasm is the lowest form of humour, and that it generally lacks intelligence or imagination (except in the case of Troll Shark, who has elevated it to a wonderful art form). But time and again, I see it used in the responses here. Sure, the trolls use it, but I'm really not directing this at them...I'm directing it at the intelligent women who frequent this forum. Why do you use sarcasm in your responses? If you know that it will not differentiate you from those you seem to loathe or those for whom you have no respect, why do you stoop to their level?

2007-10-04 09:20:32 · 21 answers · asked by Super Ruper 6

or "dumped", and you asked for a reason.. Would you be more hurt/bothered/heartbroken if they said your "flaw" was personality wise, or would it bother you more if they rejected you due to your appearance? Why?

2007-10-04 09:19:56 · 21 answers · asked by ? 6

I want to point out , i dont want any girlfiriend having to be subservient to me at all . The reason why i mentioned the Afgani woman on the cover of life magazine is there were post on what an exotic woman would look like . I repeat this has nothing to do with personalty or dominace or subservience but if you wanted to know what an exotic and beautiful woman looked like- look at that picture .

I dont pay attention to eyes that much but hers pierced my soul 15 to 20 years ago .

2007-10-04 08:35:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I read it a on a friend of mine's blog...I thought it was very interesting. I agree with some things on it and I disagree with other things

lemme know what you guys think?

"Don't hate me because I am white.

You pass me on the street and sneer in my direction.

You call me "Cracker", "Honkey", "Whitey" and even "The Man" and you think it's OK.

But when I call you, "******", "Kike", "Towelhead", "Sand-******", "Camel Jockey", "Beaner" or "Chink" you call me a racist.

You say that whites commit a lot of violence against you, so why are the ghettos the most dangerous places to live?

You say that you want to make a change in this country.

How? By protesting everything that we believe in? By trying to change everything that has made this country run fine for centuries?

You have Martin Luther King Day.

You have Cesar Chavez Day.

You have Yom Hashoah

You have Cinco de Mayo

You have Ma'uled Al-Nabi

If we had a White Pride Day you would call us racists.

In the Million Man March, you believed that you were marching for your race and rights.

If we marched for our race and rights, you would call us racists.

You enjoy the thought of Driver's Licenses for illegals.

We enjoy the thought of people obeying the laws of the land in which they reside. No negotiations.

You are proud to be black, brown, yellow and orange, and you're not afraid to announce it.

But when we announce our white pride, you call us racists.

You call each other "******", but when we call you that, you call us racists.

You rob us, carjack us, and shoot at us.

But, when a white police officer shoots a gang member or beats up a drug-dealer running from the law and posing a threat to society, you call him a racist.

We work hard to preserve our history.

You come along and try to re-write it.

We want a safe environment for our families and children.

You want to bring the ghetto to our neighborhoods.

I am white.

I am proud.

I am an American.

But, you call me a racist.

2007-10-04 07:38:52 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous