Rio recently said something regarding degradation and sex about the women needing to be 100% willing. Of course, I agree with her. All decent people should agree with the message of, "No means no", but here I am more concerned about "yes".
Whether in an encounter or a lengthier relationship, is there some way that you let men know whether you are "100%" as opposed, perhaps to thinking you're settling, feeling disappointed and resentful toward him, and believing you deserve better?
If I am with a woman and discover she felt this way, I feel like I've used and taken advantage of her. And I've had women tell me as much.
Is there some way to avoid taking advantage of women in this way, apart from celibacy? Is there some way to know early on, rather than after the fact?
2007-10-05 02:22:46 · 11 answers · asked by Gnu Diddy! 5 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I think there are many ways to know she is a willing participant. If she is actively participating or actually being the aggressor, then you have a pretty good idea.
But if she is wishy-washy in her answer or seems to be hesitant in any way, back off. If it is an "encounter" and drugs or alcohol are or may be involved, think twice about her willingness being 100%. She may not be able to give you that answer.
If her issues are that she is settling, feeling disappointed or resentful after the fact, those are her issues and she should have never gotten involved. That is not something for you to take responsibility for. You can't know from the beginning that she is feeling those things unless she tells you. So in a lengthy relationship, have clear conversations about your expectations and desires.
No is No... and that should always be respected on both sides. If you aren't sure, don't do it.
2007-10-05 02:38:37 · answer #1 · answered by Sharon O 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
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2016-10-21 03:01:36 · answer #2 · answered by saucier 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she can't communicate with you open and honestly, on any subject, that is something she needs to work on. For you to use and take advantage of her, on some level she has to allow it. You cannot read her mind. The only thing you can really do is to make your intentions clear beforehand, and the ball is in her court from there.
2007-10-05 02:41:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I dont want to make you upset but i am a women and my boyfriend did that to me, i felt very nasty, i felt fat and ugly, becuase i thought he just wanted me for the sex. Your right women should learn to say no more often if they are 100% willing, but if a person loves you i know they want to make you happy, and thats one think you enjoy. Correct? If you notice shes kinda like "what time is it?" or "whats on tv" or "i dont feel good" "im really tired" "i have a big day tomorrow" thoes are all signs of no. Sad but true, we dont really say it becuase we dont want to make you upset. But yes in the end we feel that the man has taken advantage of us and we feel horrible. I cant really tell ya much other than that but just listen to what she is saying
2007-10-05 02:37:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
LOL!! Stop asking this stuff.
How about this: Default to her being in it 100% (like she is going to default in relation to you) and have some self-esteem instead of defaulting to her saying no because in your mind you must be this massive loser that no woman would want to be with.
2007-10-05 02:30:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The only way I know to let anyone know what I want is to say it or do it..
2007-10-05 07:55:05 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ ~Sigy the Arctic Kitty~♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I treat women with respect, kindness, don't lie to them!! If I'm getting mixed signals, I jsut ask!!!!
2007-10-05 05:05:36 · answer #7 · answered by happywjc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After marriage for me.
If a woman is so sure then nothing can touch her. She cannot blame a man after its done. It shows she is a hypocrite.
2007-10-05 02:33:27 · answer #8 · answered by $Mafia Girl$ 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
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2007-10-05 02:29:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Why should 100% be the threshold? I'll go with 51% anytime!
2007-10-05 02:27:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋