Social Science - 6 June 2007

I keep seeing child support and alimony (aka maintenance) confused. Most divorces are uncontested – few end up in litigation. Alimony is as rare as the white rhino:

"In the past, most alimony awards provided for payments to former wives by breadwinning former husbands. As the culture has changed, so that now most marriages include two wage earners, women are viewed as less dependent, and men are more likely to be primary parents, the courts and spousal support awards have kept pace. More and more, the tradition of men paying and women receiving spousal support is being eroded, and orders of alimony payments from ex-wife to ex-husband are on the rise."
http://family.findlaw.com/divorce/divorce-alimony/alimony-definition.html

2007-06-06 15:53:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Gender Studies

I had some chances to sleep with a guy in upper management, I think (there was heavy flirting & strong/suggestive innuendos-he directly stared longing at my breasts when no one was looking in such a way that can only mean he wanted it right there and then), but I was too scared and couldn't go through with it, even though I wanted to!

He's not very hot at all, but I was/am incredibly attracted to him. Still, I hestitated because I'm a virgin and scared. (Plus, he has a girlfriend). I don't think he'd expect me to be a virgin because I flirted with him too (& I'm over 30 yrs old)

Now, I think he got mad at me (like I strung him along) & isn't doing any "favors" for me, like giving me a letter of rec for grad school (I asked and he declined, politely.) (I had left the job we worked at). I want to reach out to him again and say "I'm sorry, can I make it up to you", yet I feel like a jerk & think he'd not believe me or ever give me a chance for him.

I still like him. What do I do

2007-06-06 15:37:52 · 7 answers · asked by confused! 1 in Psychology

I try hard to make people comfortable and happy. I'm the 1st to admit that I might try to hard. I'm always encouraging and telling how important they really are to the world. When they are down I try to pick up the pieces and make their lives easier. I'm ALWAYS the shoulder to cry on, and yet its like they don't need me any more after they feel better. Just pushed aside like an old trusty pair of running shoes. I don't understand Maybe someone could help me too.

2007-06-06 15:35:01 · 19 answers · asked by alexandria 1 in Psychology

2007-06-06 15:19:47 · 14 answers · asked by Zefram 2 in Psychology

2007-06-06 14:59:11 · 6 answers · asked by runninghottie1500 1 in Anthropology

Let's look at the price you have to paid for your stamp of approveal. As the result of doubting yourself you have gone along with the crowd, laughing with them, dressing like them, and finally, sinning with them.
And the more you have gone along with the crowd, the more you have had to wrestle with the anxiety that is the constant companion of guilt; but instead of seeing yur anxiety and guilt as the result of having sold out to your friends, you feel it as a fear of losing the friends that you need so desperately.
And as you become prouder and guiltier, you have required your friends to be more corrupt for relief from guilt as you dig a little deeper for each new set of low-life liars to support you/

Common on now, let hear from you - tell us your sorry stories and miseries that perchance we can be shaken out of these stupor !

2007-06-06 14:45:08 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Psychology

Are you able to differentiate dreams from reality? Most dreams seem so real that it's difficult to tell what's real and what's not? Does that make sense to you?

2007-06-06 14:23:03 · 9 answers · asked by Kooties 5 in Dream Interpretation

2007-06-06 14:22:01 · 2 answers · asked by ‡ Edgar ‡ 1 in Psychology

I stupidly returned from overseas when i had a great job that paid well, as i thought i should for other peoples sake, i have sincebeen very depressed and lost and wish i never came home, i also missed an opportunity with a great guy, i cannot get any of it back now and i have regretting it and miserable for 6 months now, thinking about where i could be and how my life could havebeen, all i think about is how stupid i am to come home and miss the opportunity with the guy, i know it is ridiculous and not the end of the world but i just cant seem to let it go........does anyone have any tips as it is taking over my life, as is my depression and i'm so ashamed of myself....

2007-06-06 14:13:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Psychology

2007-06-06 14:11:48 · 9 answers · asked by stacey h 1 in Sociology

2007-06-06 13:19:51 · 2 answers · asked by lovely jadey 2 in Psychology

and if not the actual law, a scholarly source that indicates as such

2007-06-06 12:33:57 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Gender Studies

What are some examples of major stressful situations?
such as drving-like stuck in traffic, big tests coming up.. please help!

2007-06-06 12:32:22 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Social Science

you always notice that white people are ones who kidnap little boys or torture people not black people.

2007-06-06 12:23:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Sociology

Example: why do people beat up their kids?

2007-06-06 12:21:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Psychology

What would happen to the US dollar? Bush have to invade the whole world and force everyone to deal with US currency?

2007-06-06 12:16:12 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Economics

I'm fifteen years old, and already I've had to talk nine different people (including my own mother -multiple times) out of committing suicide.
People I barely even know seem to come to me when they have a problem. And because I've always wanted to help people, and because they're in fragile situations, I haven't ever refused someone.

But it's taking a toll on me -physically and mentally. I'm tired. I have my own problems. My therapist has told me that it's standing in the way of my own well-being.

But I can't just say, "Sorry, can't help" when I've told them that I'll always listen.

None of them ever accept proffessional help, so I can't refer them to a counselor.

How can I get myself out of these situations?
Please, I'll take any advice you have.

2007-06-06 12:05:25 · 13 answers · asked by Mya 2 in Psychology

What Happen To It?

2007-06-06 11:59:50 · 3 answers · asked by Melda B 1 in Anthropology

How Did It Help Them?

2007-06-06 11:50:10 · 8 answers · asked by Melda B 1 in Anthropology

In the hypothetical scenario that the Saudi Arabian government is toppled in a coup, what kind of impact would this have on the United States economy and how could the U.S. make up for the loss in Petroleum imports?

2007-06-06 11:45:17 · 3 answers · asked by Yahoo Sucks 5 in Economics

2007-06-06 11:42:42 · 18 answers · asked by capper 2 in Psychology

im 18 and going to college in the fall. i dont know if i want to become a stockbroker or a doctor. i keep going back and forth. if it were possible i would do both!!

2007-06-06 11:41:01 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Psychology

I mean everyone lies at some point, right?.....so can we say an honest person exists?

2007-06-06 11:29:27 · 16 answers · asked by spoiledprincess662 1 in Psychology

Oftentimes, they want an open schedule, don't get back to you for three or four weeks, want you to be working on-call but don't give hours, and yet, it is a large company, restaurant or a place that claims to be 'desperately in need of people'?

2007-06-06 11:27:16 · 3 answers · asked by cotterall&elaineadams 2 in Economics

Ok this is a long story. I really liked this guy in high school but I blew it every time I tried to talk to him. I went away to college, thought about it him non stop, tried to go back to my old town and talk to him, it was driving me crazy. I said something incomprehensible, blew it again, feel like an idiot. I build him up so much in my mind. This has been going on for 6 years. I dont know how to get the confidence to just talk normal around him. I also think now that he problaby doesnt think of me, because all of my attempted tries.... He is shy too. I am shy. But even now, after not seeing him for a year... how can I move on!?!?! I still for some reason feel I have some sort of chance in my heart.. He has not seen the real me yet. But I am not equipped with the tools? Any advice? Could he ever really get to know me after all this? He knows I like him because of an idiot friend of mine. I am working on my confidence.. Any advice is needed. I am not a stalker btw. I live my own life.

2007-06-06 11:12:14 · 13 answers · asked by katie 2 in Psychology

I am usually in the middle of a dream when I wake up & I am wondering if that's why it's so hard for me to wake up in the morning. My husband rarely remembers his dreams. Is this normal?

2007-06-06 11:08:29 · 7 answers · asked by K_M 3 in Dream Interpretation

the rising numbers of homeless

2007-06-06 11:07:20 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Economics

Lately it seems like I cannot relate to anyone. I feel really lonely. Everyone seems defensive,lacking honesty regarding everyday issues.

2007-06-06 10:51:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Psychology

I am very disappointed and feel bad, I asked to be the Director of my Parish, the seceracty who is doing it now, says she does not want that part of the job. I said I would love it.

Well, she was suppose to speak to the head prisit and when I went to church my husband mention it to him, and he said he knew nothing about it.

I called the secretary and she never returned my call, I even emailed her.

I was so sure I would get this since I have 25 years experience in teaching religion, that I told my family and friends.

Well, now there is no answer and I guess I am not getting it, I feel bad, and most of all I feel bad about is that nobody could give me a yes or no.

I feel like giving up on praying, going to church, because nothing works out, can someone give me advise on how to handle this?

I only want honest answers, not in the mood for anyone being funny on this.

Thanking all in advance.

2007-06-06 10:50:55 · 3 answers · asked by rosem_07663 2 in Psychology

2007-06-06 10:44:03 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Psychology