I had some chances to sleep with a guy in upper management, I think (there was heavy flirting & strong/suggestive innuendos-he directly stared longing at my breasts when no one was looking in such a way that can only mean he wanted it right there and then), but I was too scared and couldn't go through with it, even though I wanted to!
He's not very hot at all, but I was/am incredibly attracted to him. Still, I hestitated because I'm a virgin and scared. (Plus, he has a girlfriend). I don't think he'd expect me to be a virgin because I flirted with him too (& I'm over 30 yrs old)
Now, I think he got mad at me (like I strung him along) & isn't doing any "favors" for me, like giving me a letter of rec for grad school (I asked and he declined, politely.) (I had left the job we worked at). I want to reach out to him again and say "I'm sorry, can I make it up to you", yet I feel like a jerk & think he'd not believe me or ever give me a chance for him.
I still like him. What do I do
2007-06-06 15:37:52 · 7 answers · asked by confused! 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Don't fool around where you work. It will only spell trouble for you, and will possibly get you fired. It creates an awkward situation for the person in upper management, and it could put him in a position of being vulnerable to a charge of sexual harassment.
In the words of one of the other answerers, Back Off, Lady !
2007-06-06 15:46:13 · answer #1 · answered by Mark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u did the right thats for sure. never sleep with a guy to get something like that. that would give the wrong impress of u. if u dont get the letter thats okay. saving yourself is okay. if hes mad dont worry about. do tell his girlfriend because sooner or later shes going to find out and be very hurt. Sooner is always better than later.
2007-06-06 16:09:48 · answer #2 · answered by niataowens 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a virgin, he is a womanizing cheat, and you want to apologize to him. That just blows me away. I cannot believe you are even serious!! Find your own boyfriend outside of the workplace and build your career on your own so you can be proud of yourself someday because if there is anything you need it's a little self-worth. Sorry. But that's the truth.
2007-06-06 15:48:29 · answer #3 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he played you along and "you" want to apologize to him? What's up with that? What kind of thinking is that? You did the right thing by not giving in, now don't second-guess yourself, just move on.
Sometimes bosses or supervisors want to get you out of a job so they toy with you. They aren't serious, and if you ever tried to get too close to them they would "cry wolf" and get you fired. You did good girl....now put it out of your mind.
2007-06-06 16:04:04 · answer #4 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would back off...NOW. This could cost your your job. If you do have feelings for him, then think of it this way: If he will cheat on his girlfriend with you, then what makes you think that he would be faithful to you? Also, put yourself in his girlfriend's shoes...Imagine the pain that you would feel if you were her and found out...
2007-06-06 15:42:14 · answer #5 · answered by Serenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its best just to let him be and move on with your life.
2007-06-06 15:47:51 · answer #6 · answered by razerscutpeople 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore his advances and concentrate on your work
2007-06-06 15:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by understandingrecovery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋