Ok this is a long story. I really liked this guy in high school but I blew it every time I tried to talk to him. I went away to college, thought about it him non stop, tried to go back to my old town and talk to him, it was driving me crazy. I said something incomprehensible, blew it again, feel like an idiot. I build him up so much in my mind. This has been going on for 6 years. I dont know how to get the confidence to just talk normal around him. I also think now that he problaby doesnt think of me, because all of my attempted tries.... He is shy too. I am shy. But even now, after not seeing him for a year... how can I move on!?!?! I still for some reason feel I have some sort of chance in my heart.. He has not seen the real me yet. But I am not equipped with the tools? Any advice? Could he ever really get to know me after all this? He knows I like him because of an idiot friend of mine. I am working on my confidence.. Any advice is needed. I am not a stalker btw. I live my own life.
2007-06-06 11:12:14 · 13 answers · asked by katie 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I have dated a few after him but It hasnt done any help. I still feel unresolved. I wish I knew what he thought.
2007-06-08 15:50:36 · update #1
If this guy already knows that you like him and has made no move to ask you out, you are just wasting your time and setting yourself up for more heartache and embaressment.
Date somebody else.
Go find another boyfriend. Build an honest and healthy realtionship with him. You'll be happier.
Good luck to you.
2007-06-06 11:28:11 · answer #1 · answered by ROSE 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that if you don't build confidence fast, you are never going to have a chance. You need to be able to get to know each other- especially before he finds a girl other than you. Which would not be good.
I still believe that something could happen between you two, no matter how many odd conversations you've had. If he's shy, too, he probably understands.
There's this guy who I've liked two years, and I am positive he knows that I like him.. but I think he might like me. He's shy though. ..So it's possible that if he is interested in you, he might not ask you out because he's too afraid!! One of you needs to take the first step.
If you REALLY cannot talk to him, I suggest writting him a note and personally giving it to him. This way you can think out what you need to say. Don't email him, though. That's too impersonal, and I've been pranked online several times.. so that's not a good route.
Well good luck. =]
I hope everything works out for you!
2007-06-14 12:15:27 · answer #2 · answered by Vehicle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ending up Marring my HighSchool crush! Turns out, he was crushing on me as well! LOL How about that one? Maybe you's will end up getting married one day! You just never know! Okay, you said that you blew it, well How did you do that? I mean, you're shy, and so is he you said, So What I think you should do, is give it ONE MORE SHOT. THEN If it doesn't work, move on. Here's how to give it another chance : Call him up, write him a letter, let him know that what he saw before, wasn't the REAL you that you are just nervous and shy around him. (BTW:I'M SHY TOO!...LOL) And see if that works. If nothing works, and all else had failed here's how you can move on : Try and go out to date other people, or try and find someone that looks like him or reminds you of him. If that doesn't work, then try to find someone COMPLETE OPPOSITE from him in EVERY way. ;) any more questions with this, you can with e-mail me, or Instant message me(yahoo). pretty_angel_0203@yahoo.com (pretty_angel_0203 for IM) GOODLUCK!
2007-06-14 12:29:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have some real true feelings for this guy and you should go for it. True love is hard to find.Write to him call him on the phone anything to get the ball rolling. You only have one chance at true love and if you mess this up you might not ever find anyone else like him. And there is the chance things might not work out but you would have made a good friend . Go into the relationship with an open mind and don't get your hopes up too much. Personally I think he is the ONE.
2007-06-13 21:30:06 · answer #4 · answered by Kathy H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Until you feel confident about who the real you is, he is not likely to see you for who you are, nor, for that matter, will anyone else. You need to nourish the "real you." Find activities that increase your self esteem...take some art classes or study something that you're good at. Develop some interests that you can be passionate about. Through this, you will gain confidence and not only will you have a better sense of who the "real you" is, but others will too.
2007-06-06 18:17:13 · answer #5 · answered by Simmy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
E-mail him or write him your true thoughts. It sounds like the face to face meetings don't work out yet because you're both shy.
I would say the main thing is to try to get to know and explore each others thoughts and minds from a distance before your eyes cause you to be tongue tied around him because of the other thoughts that his physical presence might stir-up,,,,he may be having the same problems.
2007-06-06 18:47:09 · answer #6 · answered by beesting 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you ovbsisly dont know him to well like the real him just like he dont kno the reall you and what if hes a real jerk and i dont think hes likes you if he knows you like him dont you thinl he would of done somthing about it? its just a childesh crush and you need just meditate him out of your system and grow up im not trying to be mean but its the real world and your not in high school any more huny so i think you will find someone some day that will show how much they like you and thats what you need in a guy
2007-06-14 10:51:03 · answer #7 · answered by karlita810 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best thing for you to do is just to tell him you like him.
2007-06-14 12:56:49 · answer #8 · answered by Domonique A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over him. Let em' go. If he's not showing any interest let it go. Move on.
2007-06-14 16:41:37 · answer #9 · answered by Aila126 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slam your head in a car door till you forget.
2007-06-14 18:01:45 · answer #10 · answered by C-Ham 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋