Social Science - 1 October 2006

2006-10-01 10:59:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Sociology

Steps to Staying Calm


The first step to defusing that upsurge of angry energy is to realize that it is possible to be provoked into an argumentative situation at any given moment. Defiant, argumentative people do not really want to hear, listen or receive what you have to say. They are poised and ready to spring into defiance and disagreeableness. They are set to discount any, if not all, of your perceptions, thoughts or feelings. They are rejectors and life with them is usually punctuated with unpleasantness, fights and yes, even violence. These are the people that you just want to punch and throw through a wall. Real closeness and intimacy with them is virtually next to impossible.

The second step, if possible, is to avoid deep intimate relationships with such people. They will only cause you grief. Their attacks on your character will bring out sides of yourself that you will not like. It is best to form close relationships only with those people who do not trigger your intense, negative reactions. There are so many wonderful, agreeable, positive people in this world with whom you can get along. So why struggle! You have a right to receive as much happiness, joy and pleasure as you can stand. Remember, entering into relationships with provocative people will only make you unhappy and could injure your self-esteem. Put downs are not a positive experience, so avoid vexatious people. Learn how to control your angry/anxious reactions when in the company of such individuals. Your first response to such negative interactions may be to raise your voice. If this happens, it is an indication that you have a need that is not being met.

The third step to defusing angry energy is to realize that most provocative situations involve a competition for need satisfaction. You may feel that someone is being insensitive to your needs. The truth is, the other person also has needs to be satisfied you are both in competition. For example, there is a group of kids being very noisy in the next room. You are watching television and they are interfering with your need for relaxation and entertainment. However, in reality, they are only trying to satisfy their need for playful fun and are not being deliberately provocative. They only want to satisfy their needs, the same as you. Your anger rises, but you immediately let it go and remain calm. You choose to postpone satisfying your needs for the moment. On the other hand, you could have satisfied your needs first by gently telling the children to keep the noise down. Either way of handling the situation prevents your getting upset and allows the kids to keep playing without disturbing you. Everybody wins and you have kept your cool.

When I was a young boy I saw two neighborhood fathers fist fighting over their kids and a rubber ball. A simple dispute escalated into full scale warfare between grown men. The fight started with their children but soon involved the whole neighborhood. In my opinion the quarrel should have stayed with the kids. Parents should stay out of such disputes and only enter to remove their children if the action gets too hot and heavy. That way, you protect your child and you do not get involved with your rage and violence. The choice of not fighting fits into your philosophy of not being able to successful get what you want in this manner.



The fourth step is avoid becoming triangled into someone else's quarrel and this method of choosing not to get angry keeps that from occuring. It is always better to send the antagonists back to each other in order to work things out. That way you do not make their problem, your problem. The rule of thumb: if two or more people are acting provocatively it is better to separate them by pulling yourself or your child out of the fracas. If you don't, you will be in danger of being provoked. That situation will not get your needs met ... your goal is to get your needs met without being provoked into rage.

2006-10-01 10:57:42 · 3 answers · asked by Kimberly S 1 in Psychology

To what extent is this perception still relevant?

2006-10-01 10:55:31 · 4 answers · asked by finneram 2 in Gender Studies

2006-10-01 10:51:04 · 13 answers · asked by eviljeanius76 2 in Gender Studies

2006-10-01 10:46:53 · 11 answers · asked by eviljeanius76 2 in Other - Social Science

I have noticed that the majority of the time if a woman finds out that her boyfriend or husband is cheating on her, the wounded woman will blame the other woman, hate on the other woman and begin calling the other woman all kind of derogatory names and may actually start fights with her. Of course, the wounded woman will be upset at her lover, but she will usually make up with him and take him back after a while, but she never, ever speaks to the other woman again. This particularly happens if the other woman is a sister or close friend of the wounded woman. Why is this? Isn't the husband/boyfriend equally, if not more, at fault for the infidelity?

Do we hold women up to a higher level and expectation of morality than we do men? Do we just expect men to be "bad boys" and girls to be good and to always do the right thing?

2006-10-01 10:43:08 · 24 answers · asked by dej 2 in Gender Studies

Well, on my profile, how do I see that I want a boyfriend that will give me sex? Not in those words though cus it al make me sound slutty, Anything got anything good I can say that al sound ok?

2006-10-01 10:41:54 · 2 answers · asked by x1gemma1x 1 in Gender Studies

2006-10-01 10:38:51 · 3 answers · asked by finneram 2 in Gender Studies

Thanks to the nice people at yahoo answers, i have allready discovered the physical causes of attarction to another human being, but now i was wondering, can these feelings be stopped, are they deliberate IE is it ever possible to stop fancying someone instead of pretending not to?

2006-10-01 10:37:05 · 4 answers · asked by jamie m 1 in Psychology

it seems like i can hold it for 30 mins but as soon as i get in the bathroom i feel like im gonna blow

2006-10-01 10:28:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Psychology

2006-10-01 10:27:11 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Social Science

What personality traits does this typically involve, or is it an issue of self esteem?

2006-10-01 10:27:10 · 21 answers · asked by sandie 2 in Psychology

I am interested, however my understanding is that most of them are only intersted in citizenship here in the USA....is this true ?

2006-10-01 10:25:31 · 8 answers · asked by Joe M 1 in Other - Social Science

2006-10-01 10:25:11 · 10 answers · asked by origamix60 3 in Psychology

god is inside us all in our own personal way. i unfortunatly cannot find it in my heart to seak him out in my mind. is there a reason? and why does he hide in me? and i evil? what is evil and why do i feel evil around other and want to cause them harm and pain? where am i?

2006-10-01 10:21:03 · 14 answers · asked by origamix60 3 in Psychology

2006-10-01 10:09:55 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Sociology

2006-10-01 09:52:41 · 9 answers · asked by Y 2 in Psychology

I consider myself as this rude, selfish, fun hating girl and I want to be the exact opposite. My mom amd step-dad and brother have all told me I suck the fun out og everything. I want to be this fun loving girl, I want to be risky and a wild child. How can I do that?

2006-10-01 09:44:15 · 9 answers · asked by loveurlife93 1 in Psychology

maybe when you girls are having your periods to make it a bit more fair what about kicking us guy in theballs every month.. could be done when just before durring the pms phase??

2006-10-01 09:33:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Gender Studies

im a very bad eater i mainly eat sweets choclate and no that much hot food i dont do physical education any more and dont play any sports i have very skinny arms and legs but a big belly and **** for the first time ever one of the boys in my year started slagging me and the school followed i really want to change but im very bad at eating i dont like vegies or any fruit can someone please help me!THERE IS NO NEED FOR SLAGGING ME HEARD IT ALL BEFORE AND YOUR NOT IMPRESSING ANY1!i need internet suppourt and tips will any1 voulenteer to help?leave a comment and e-mail me if your willing!

2006-10-01 09:30:21 · 9 answers · asked by Big Bear 1 in Other - Social Science

My best friend was murdered in January. The jerk that killed her was her boyfriend. He had death threats on her and her two children and was constantly beating her. When she was killed she was in the process of moving out. On the stand he admitted to killing her but he blamed it on the WAR and booze. He was given a mandatory life sentence with parole after 30 years. The only reason he has parole in 30 years is beacause the jury said it wasn't premeditated. Is this fair justice??

2006-10-01 09:23:38 · 10 answers · asked by mattisonracing69 1 in Sociology

Well, yes, they are. Saw a great example at the store yesterday.

The father was carefully examining the clothing and he asked his son, "Do you think you would like this one?" (I wasn't watching them at first, so I only overheard that part. The writer in me is a BIG Harriet the Spy type, LOL.) Anyways. The son then said in a kind, pleasant tone, "Yes, sir." He sounded SINCERE, not bored, not sarcastic, sin-cere. It was such a rare thing to hear around these parts, I had to turn around and get a look at the pair to see if they looked as much like nice people as they sounded, and they did. Not a trace of over-strictness or fear on either's faces.

Don't know if this matters, but someone might ask: they were black, child about six or seven, father about forty to fifty years.

If all parents and kids were like those two, this world would get along SO much better, I believe.

What do you think?

2006-10-01 09:19:34 · 5 answers · asked by *babydoll* 6 in Sociology

http://www.halfbakery.com/idea/armored_20trolly
This was funny to me and reminded me a bit of myself. Would you please share your funniest shopping experience with me and tell me how you reacted toward the situation?

2006-10-01 09:15:04 · 4 answers · asked by Sunbeam 5 in Other - Social Science

2006-10-01 09:14:54 · 2 answers · asked by JaCy 2 in Other - Social Science

2006-10-01 08:55:14 · 3 answers · asked by azu 1 in Psychology

have your skin peeled off by a cucumber peeler or hang upside down for 72 hours?

2006-10-01 08:54:38 · 36 answers · asked by TCARANON 1 in Psychology

2006-10-01 08:51:00 · 11 answers · asked by mattisonracing69 1 in Sociology

answer the following questions and i will greatly appreciate it and you will get 10 people....

1. describe the stimulus and receptors for taste and explain the difference for olfaction than all the other senses.


2. outline how sensory process occurs in the ear.

2006-10-01 08:46:47 · 10 answers · asked by §gorda§ 3 in Psychology

Psych, i have never kissed a boy or talked to one in my entire life and when i see one i get chills and throw up am i a freak?

2006-10-01 08:45:36 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Sociology

how did the conflict over Hamilton's policies led to the emergence of the first political parties.

2006-10-01 08:45:32 · 2 answers · asked by superstar 2 in Other - Social Science