2006-10-01 10:46:53 · 11 answers · asked by eviljeanius76 2 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
There is no real answer to this question but what I have learned of what love is to me and that is the word LOVE itself holds the answer.......
(L)isten: and validate them by hearing and empathizing.
(O)verlook: their minor character flaws as they will overlook yours.
(V)alue: who they are and what they mean to you.
(E)xpress: how you love them not just with words but with actions.
2006-10-01 22:17:12 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Love is not a lie. The fairy tale notion of love that people believe in is a lie. Real love for someone is unconditional. That means you love them even when it's difficult or even after the passion and sex are no longer at the same level. It means you make sacrifices and accept that person's faults just like you want them to accept your own imperfections. Real love is being able to truly be oneself with the other person, being as comfortable with them as you are with yourself.
Real love means that you are still two individuals with different likes and dislikes, able to still pursue individual dreams and have the other person support your pursuits and cheer you on even if its not something they are particularly interested in. Being a couple doesn't mean you lose your identity and this is one of the biggest mistakes I think people make. They buy into that "we must merge" bull. Everything is built upon "us" and they forget about "I" and "me." You CANNOT feed a relationship and keep it intact if you do not feed your own spirit and your own desires so that you are fulfilled and you then bring that fulfillment into the relationship.
When you are not evolved and fulfilled and you look to the other person for that fulfillment the relationship becomes burdensome and one person or both are "feeding" off of one another. I see this with a lot of young couples - they think that a relationship means 24x7 togetherness. The thought of being apart or taking separate retreats or vacations with friends is just "wrong," when in fact it actually can rejuvenate the relationship. But of course there has to be trust. If there's no trust then the relationship is doomed from the beginning.
2006-10-01 10:59:54 · answer #2 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a word, yes. The only thing I'd disagree with in your question is the suggestion that the lie makes a relationship work. While that's obviously true in cases, for a great many others, the lie merely prolongs things.
2006-10-01 11:56:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOVE IS=giving the close ones what they need if they ask directly or indirectly.What you are was given to you because of that love,you have to do the same to feel the result of love so you can return it to where it comes from.The love human kind talks about is not real love,it is fantasy.You are right about that lie,this is why i gave you my definition.Love is real and the ultimate love is =you ,a woman together making a child and guiding it with the same GOD that gave you what you are.All you have to do is find that GOD like i did.Our goal is to do what GOD does and that is only good or positive goodness.You are right human love is fake, run away from it or with that special someone find it.
2006-10-01 11:01:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i don't think that its a lie and i think its very individualized what our definition of love. If we love someone it doesn't make the realtionship work, if you love someone that means that you love their personality,and just the way they do things. Making a relationship takes alot more than love, you need honesty,humor and all your other specific needs. Loving soemone doesn't mean to put up with abuse or lies, it means giving the same thing you want out of a relationship.
2006-10-01 10:59:26 · answer #5 · answered by KissmeQT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, i just got back from iraq, halfway through the tour, the woman i loved with all my heart and married decided to trip on some dudes ****. Now that i'm back she's swearing up and down she needs me, she LOVEs me and whatnot, and the screwed up thing is im still die-hard in love with her.
What's love? It's a damn emotion you can't control. You either have it or you don't but once you do you'll see that it's the most powerful one you have.
To your second question, is it a lie? No. If it were a lie than it'd be easy for me to deal with what happened to me, but it isn't so it still hurts like hell.
2006-10-01 12:24:53 · answer #6 · answered by Slosh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
apparently you've never fallen in love have you? You can't make it happen, either it comes naturally or it doesn't. Getting used to a person and being comfortable with someone does equate to love, we only think it does.
2006-10-01 10:51:43 · answer #7 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think love takes time... it is something that you feel in your heart and your gut. When it happens you might not even totally recognize it until it is gone from your life... meaning that person is gone.. once you recognize it, you will never forget it.
2006-10-01 10:55:04 · answer #8 · answered by smilingmick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, it is most of the time. We want some reassurance that its gonna be okay. that there is someone in this world who cares. that when the world falls on us, we can go runnin into his/her arms. Deep, huh?
2006-10-01 10:59:46 · answer #9 · answered by roxy_volcom_chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to love, is to feel pain. its as simple as that
2006-10-01 11:00:47 · answer #10 · answered by lb-rans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋