I consider myself as this rude, selfish, fun hating girl and I want to be the exact opposite. My mom amd step-dad and brother have all told me I suck the fun out og everything. I want to be this fun loving girl, I want to be risky and a wild child. How can I do that?
2006-10-01 09:44:15 · 9 answers · asked by loveurlife93 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
What the hell is the fun in being what everyone else wants?
RIGHT NOW, you need to go to the library and get "With Charity Toward None" by Florence King.
It's OK to not like people. The world is insane and anyone who conforms to it is stupid.
The fringe will survive.
2006-10-01 09:48:57 · answer #1 · answered by auntiegrav 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly are the way that you describe yourself (rude, selfish, etc.), then those actions and thoughts must come to you somewhat automatically. Generally, people automatically do what comes naturally to them. A way for you to get more positive behaviors to come more naturally to you is for you to challenge those that come automatically. Start slowly. When you get a coffee in a coffee shop, make a point to stop and think about your reaction to the counter person. Pointedly thank them, and smile. Do this a few times a day. Take the time to stop and think about your automatic reactions, and then react in the way that you want to. Positivity begets positivity. And when people start reacting to you more in the way that you want, you're more likely to continue the behaviors that illicit those responses (the good, friendly ones). If you are changing purely because your family has told you to, then you also need to examine whether or not you truly want to change. If you don't, it's not going to happen. However, if you truly believe that you would like to change a part of your personality, put in a little bit of work and it can happen. But don't let anyone make you feel badly about yourself, regardless of what you'd like to change. No one has the right to judge us, as we do not have the right to judge others.
Good luck!
2006-10-01 10:00:23 · answer #2 · answered by Kate L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 13 yrs old, my chorus teacher gave me some advice that turned me from a whisperer to singing back up with a very well known singer....
he said
"fake it till you make it"
It works in all aspects of life.
Find someone you want to be more like. Figure out why they are the way they are and adopt that view. Remind yourself everyday why you want to be more this way than that. Over time it will become in-grained into the very fiber of your being. Before you know, it will be natural for you.
2006-10-01 12:06:25 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For one you are doing well by really looking at your flaws. Now all you have to do is 1.write them all down2.write for each one, why you feel or act the way you do about them3.think of the best thing to do about them. You must find the the spiritual side of you, do you believe in Jesus Christ, and know that you believe because you feel it not just because that's what you were taught. Really look inside your self and commit yourself to trying to walk in his path. Pray and take it a day at a time. Don't start off being drastic and throw away all your Korn or Ludacris CD's, just start toning it down, pick up a gospel CD and just listen. You'll see that not all faithful people were that way all their lives. Write me back at griffinrenee@sbcglobal.net and we'll chat about ****.
2006-10-01 09:58:12 · answer #4 · answered by griffinrenee@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not you I'm worried about, it's your step-father and step-brother. Telling you something like that is mean and malicious, like handing you a cup of poison. It's the kind of meanness you find in most born again Christians, I wonder if they are? Instead of wanting to be someone else, I'd would discount heavily anything negative your step-father says. This means you still obey your step-dad and treat him with respect, but it does not mean changing yourself. If you don't like something, then you don't like it period, end of story. Don't change yourself and the worst thing in the world you can ever do is want to be something your not. Are you a bad person? No. Do you do meanthings to others. Judging from your post, you don't. Like yourself and be the person you were meant to be. Trying to be someone else will make you miserable. One day you will be of age and can move out of the house and be what you want and do what you want. Instead, be courteous to your step-father, but in no wise pretend you like something when you don't. I find it hard to imagine that he would say that to you. He is not a nice person, when you are of age move out and stay away from that jerk, he will keep saying demeaning things all his life, when you can get away, stay away from him.
2006-10-01 10:05:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just learn to be yourself and the rest will follow
2006-10-01 15:35:51 · answer #6 · answered by soulvendor2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must have already thought about it , stop saying " I should do this etc. " and just do whatever you decided
2006-10-01 09:52:43 · answer #7 · answered by tyrannior 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying, it can be that simple
2006-10-01 09:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by lee p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
destroy your self by eliminating your ego
2006-10-01 10:25:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋