Singles & Dating - 9 December 2007

My ex and I dated 4 years. It started perfect, but during that time, he did not treat me well. Very distant, lazy. Neglected my feelings and needs.

HE broke up with ME and continued to shut me out. I was devestated. He had my self-esteem so diminished, I was lost. He wasn't there for me while I was hurting.

All of the sudden he calls to hang out-- I blew him off, and things are COMPLETELY different. He is being obsessive, saying I was his everything, he regrets how he treated me, I was the best thing that happened to him. Visiting, calling, letters everyday.

Insists that the way he was, wasn't the "REAL" him-- that he's been spending all of this time trying to change. He's very depressed. His mother called me worried, trying to stick up for him as well.

But I'm DONE with that. He caused me to be unhappy, anxious, insecure wreck for 3 yrs and I'm better off without him. I feel they have no right to make me feel guilty for not giving him a 2nd chance.

Do people ever REALLY change?

2007-12-09 01:08:03 · 12 answers · asked by autumn 1

my boyfriend told me that he love me more than other girls, after eleven months i find out that he's hurtting me, and it seems i am even stupid girlfriend!!

2007-12-09 01:04:40 · 11 answers · asked by nasjtassia 1

2007-12-09 01:01:44 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-09 01:01:10 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I hooked up with a guy last month. Since then, he's been calling, texting me, leaving msgs. We really click but he goes to college 2 hrs from me.

Thurs nite I went to visit friends there again. He called that day. Said he would be w guys, but wanted to see me. I didnt want it to seem like I was all about him-- so I went out with the girls, played it cool. He was texting and looking for me, found me at the bar. He was very funny, flirty and we danced and hung out all nite. He kissed me..

Walking home, he asked to hold my hand. I joked about being a booty call and he said, "if thats all you were, why would i call u just to talk and love every sec of it?" said if i lived there, he could see us hanging out.

i went to his place, hooked up. AMAZING. stayed up til 4 talking and cuddling. hung out the next day. he texted that day. i sent an email yesterday evening saying i had a fun time w him-- but no response yet. my friends say he's a sweet guy, but i'm thinking i got played. thoughts?

2007-12-09 01:00:05 · 14 answers · asked by autumn 1

the best thing is to throw nice cooked dishes at them? They snap them midair, and after a reasonable amount of snapping become calm and normal again?

2007-12-09 00:57:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

There's this gal that I like but we are just friends (i told her last year but some things might change now).
She showed some interests...
a few days we're quiet but today she started by teasing me and conversation...keeps teasing me...and eye contacts...she seemed interested in what i do! once she doodled on my paper w/o my knowledge...and once just robs a paper off my hand and say, "let'see what he says..." and smiles teasingfully...but in person she talks more than texts...today i met her in a campus presentation out of the city and she waved to me first and somehow i can feel her looking...

But, there's this other guy who likes her (i don't know how she feels) but she and that boy doesn't talk much at school now...she doesn't make attempt to see him...she was like trying to avoid him (once she went up when he was waiting in front of lift) but i do not know if she chatted with him online...in the past sometimes they talk and she responds (seems interested in talking though)...a boy who once liked her (but he gave up) told me that i'm hopeless...and that other boy is too good...and he also said she's with him (i strongly doubt it)...but they never talk now (they did a few months ago! and he has approached her for more than a year, but they now don't talk in person much)!!!
should i trust what the guy said and give up?

2007-12-09 00:54:33 · 4 answers · asked by Tanya Kenapa 1

Hot as in everyone time you go to a pub, someone comes up to greet you to try and start a relationship.

2007-12-09 00:50:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

well me and my ex hav a complicated story.
He is my first and the only guy i have actually ever slept with and he knows this.And basically everytime we do see eachutha we mainly just hook up and do thingz but not have sex all the time. He has a very busy schedule with work and playing soccer. I do have feelings for him and its tough coz i have asked him what he wants to come out of this and he has told me he doesnt want a relationship because hes still young and wants 2 have fun, and says that im still young 2 and dont need 2 b serious. Im 18 and hes 21, and realy i dont like to think of us as **** buddys coz i have much more respect 4 myself. When we see eachother also its like, we make fun of eachother and act like were 2gtha but i honestly do not know wat he wants.

so can u please answer these questions 4 me;
- am i just a booty call ?!
- what do i do; should i tell him how i feel ?!
- does he like me ?!

2007-12-09 00:48:37 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

when your parent said you have to have a career before you have girlfriend----Is it good for you,for guy under 18?,so that mean you can't have girlfriend until you have a career.Anyone think that is good for you??

2007-12-09 00:46:29 · 8 answers · asked by Ken 1

2007-12-09 00:44:38 · 22 answers · asked by BB 2

a boy in my year he scared me he sent me pictures of him naked and i didnt want him too, he would talk about sex, and wearing my underwear, i thought he just liked me, then on webcam i stripped to him even though i was crying on webcam to him he kept giving me orders i was scared of him, then i met up with him once he told me to talk as he really liked me we kissed and i was ok then he pulled his pants down and told me to touch it i said no and i started crying so he got my hand and put it on him then he gave up on me as i kept saying no then he he asked me to strip i refused and was still crying but he pulled my pants down i tried to cover myself up and he told me to take my hands off i said no so he pushed me onto the chair and forced my hand off then he touched me i just sat there all quiet and scared not saying anything but no but he kept doing it and he did it with all my body too, i havent forgotten what he did to me and people say i overreact but it happened again last year

2007-12-09 00:43:11 · 12 answers · asked by dreamer 1

That when there is no trust, there cant be any love?

2007-12-09 00:43:05 · 22 answers · asked by Inquiring Mind 3

I have a really good friend who's a guy (i'm a girl incase you didnt notice) and i had a pretty big crush on him, I don't know if I still do. he found out and he was pretty cool about it, and now we're back to being good friends. The question is, he teases me ALOT and makes fun of me ALOT and sometimes I wonder if he hates me, but just a few days ago he got me a birthday present that was almost 20pounds, and said it was because I deserved it and I was one of his closest friends. then why does he tease and make fun of me so much?

Though my question for the guys is - why do you people tease your close friends who are girls? is there another meaning to it?

2007-12-09 00:35:25 · 14 answers · asked by Freddy 1

2007-12-09 00:34:04 · 15 answers · asked by joyce chalk 1

I don't know how to ask this, so here goes. At present, I am surely, but gradually recovering from a type of illness (thankfully, not fatal) that has left a few small marks on my neck. I don't know if they will completely heal or become scars & fade with time, but they are still healing with the aid of Vitamin E cream that I rub on my neck.

The thing is, I'm a 23-year-old, single female & really wish for a boyfriend. I've learned that one of the best ways to attract a guy is to show off the neck (I really hope no guys are embarrassed by me saying this. I've just always noticed that men are naturally attracted to a woman's neck, in addition to other things). I used to enjoy showing off my neck, but until I'm completely healed, I'm frightened to. I'm not an ugly sight or anything. It's nothing a little dab of natural-skin coloured make-up couldn't cover. It's just I don't feel confident enough to show off my neck to any guys when socialising or flirting.

2007-12-09 00:19:17 · 11 answers · asked by highland_white_wolf 2

when the wearer looks 15 years younger

2007-12-09 00:17:02 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

My 18 yr old son hates to bring his friends around, cause they tell him how hot looking his Mom is. I have no interest in younger guys what so ever , although it's flattering. I'm 38 & want to know where are the bueatiful hot ladies 35 over. The 30's are great, I want to start a Over 35 & Hot Ladies Club. I'm in California, the Culver City area. Any other outgoing friendly bueatiful, confident, & over 35 yr old ladies out there willing to kick off this club with me? Only positive, friendly, down to earth ladies. We can meet once a month, have a creative fun function monthly & watch it grow. Net work, motivate, as well as break that stereo type that women can't get along with each other. Only the confident, secure, pretty ladies of all races, all backgrounds can be a part. The one thing we will all have in common is that we are 35 & up, & bueatiful. give me your feed back California Ladies. For the record I am straight, nothing against those who are not.

2007-12-09 00:13:45 · 4 answers · asked by cuddles 1

ok, i broke up wit my bf last night and he didnt know what to say, ok? and then my friends stephanie IMed me and told me she was on the phone with him and crying his eyes out, and that she started to cry to, so then i was crying. it was my first relationship and i have never hurt anyone so badly. how can i possibly talk to him again? i have to dance with him in chorus and sit by him in my classes! ill probly start crying at school when i see his face. wat do i DO?

2007-12-09 00:09:37 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous