ok, i broke up wit my bf last night and he didnt know what to say, ok? and then my friends stephanie IMed me and told me she was on the phone with him and crying his eyes out, and that she started to cry to, so then i was crying. it was my first relationship and i have never hurt anyone so badly. how can i possibly talk to him again? i have to dance with him in chorus and sit by him in my classes! ill probly start crying at school when i see his face. wat do i DO?
2007-12-09 00:09:37 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetheart, there is just very little we can do about anyone else's feelings. It would be great if we could make things OK for other people, but it just doesn't work that way.
I will tell you that the thing that seems to hurt us the most when someone ends a relationship with us is that we feel as if we aren't good enough somehow, that there is something wrong with us. The truth being that most relationships do end, most people do not stay together for a life time and what attracts one person to another, makes them stay, especially when young, is a freakin mystery most of the time.
Maybe you could write him a letter, one that just explains that tho he isn't the guy for you, you do care about how he feels, that you hope you can both remain friends, that you know you will have to see him and that when you do you really would like it to be friendly.
Just don't be so nice that you give him hope of getting back together. And don't go back just because you feel bad. It's wrong for you and wrong for him too. You would be keeping both of you from someone you would each fit better with and only prolonging his pain.
He will be OK. He will get over it and move onto someone else. The best thing you can do for him is to show him that girls are decent creatures even if each and every one isn't going to want to be with him.
So, take care of you and know that some things can't be fixed, but only endured until they pass. It's just part of being grown up.
Gentle thoughts...
2007-12-09 00:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You broke up with him for a good reason,right! Treat him with respect. I sure he doesn't want you to be the one to rub his shoulder and say he's going to be o.k. Since ,you're the one that broke up with him.
He just needs time,to go through what he's feeling.
Let him turn to his friends for comfort!
Concenstrate on dancing well with him,when you sit beside him in class.Answer questions about class ,and don't stare at him.And don't tell everyone he was crying on the phone!
Take care!
2007-12-09 00:22:23 · answer #2 · answered by need2know 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously that you really loved him too, so why don't you talk to him and start all over again.
Just heals the pain that you caused and it will makes a big difference for him. God bless!
2007-12-09 00:19:40 · answer #3 · answered by hottstuff 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You obviously thought hurting him was a good idea at the time, so what's done is done. Move on. That energy that you've given out will return you; it is a karmic inevitability. So, own your own decisions and make your peace with them. Good luck to you.
2007-12-09 00:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if you broke up with him, there has to be a reason. Tell him your sorry for hurting him, and tell him the reason you broke up with him, and that the to of you should stay friends in case you decide to go back out. If you still have feelings for him, why would you brake up with him?
2007-12-09 00:14:25 · answer #5 · answered by lttlbt1442 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
dont worry about it, if your dancing with him in choir, your probably too young for this breakup to stick with you for a while
2007-12-09 00:16:20 · answer #6 · answered by Josh R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to him and make him understand your point
2007-12-09 00:13:45 · answer #7 · answered by j0r0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋