I don't know how to ask this, so here goes. At present, I am surely, but gradually recovering from a type of illness (thankfully, not fatal) that has left a few small marks on my neck. I don't know if they will completely heal or become scars & fade with time, but they are still healing with the aid of Vitamin E cream that I rub on my neck.
The thing is, I'm a 23-year-old, single female & really wish for a boyfriend. I've learned that one of the best ways to attract a guy is to show off the neck (I really hope no guys are embarrassed by me saying this. I've just always noticed that men are naturally attracted to a woman's neck, in addition to other things). I used to enjoy showing off my neck, but until I'm completely healed, I'm frightened to. I'm not an ugly sight or anything. It's nothing a little dab of natural-skin coloured make-up couldn't cover. It's just I don't feel confident enough to show off my neck to any guys when socialising or flirting.
2007-12-09 00:19:17 · 11 answers · asked by highland_white_wolf 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I’m frightened that men will get the wrong idea & think I don’t care about taking care of my body, when in fact, I’m recovering from a condition. Can men still be emotionally & physically-attracted to a woman, even if she had a few marks or scars on her neck or anywhere else? I know looks are important in order to attract anyone before they can get to know the person within, & that’s why I’m frightened. Please, do not think I’m bragging, but many people have told me that I’m a beautiful young woman who deserves to have a partner, yet I don’t feel I can attract anyone with marks on my neck. To be honest, I personally don’t believe I DESERVE a man, but I still wish for one.
One of my female friends is blind, but still married with children. If a man who has sight can fall in love with a woman who’s blind, can a man still fall in love with a woman with scars on her neck (if that’s what they become)?
Guys, PLEASE be honest! Thank you.
2007-12-09 00:19:35 · update #1
Good grief, sweetheart... Please don't borrow trouble. I don't need a picture and it doesn't matter how bad they even are. of course someone will fall in love with you, care for you and the scars will likely not matter in the least.
We all have flaws, some are only more readily seen that others, but not a man alive does not have some small to horrid problem of his own.
Myself, i am scarred from stem to stern, both arms and both shins, as well as several surgeries. Not only are men still attracted to me but i am in love as well, and he with me. He never even considered these things, i'm sure.
If love depended upon small things such as what you describe, the human race would have failed long ago. YOU are the only one who needs to get past it. Hide them with make-up if you must, but being intelligent, being funny, and being a decent human being will attract far more men than a perfect exterior could ever hope to. Any man looking for perfection will be horribly disappointed and is too shallow to care for anyway.
I promose you, men are not as superficial as all that - not real men anyway, and there isn't another kind worth having.
2007-12-09 00:36:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there. First of all relax.. Have a deep and long breath........
Do it once again......
I read your question with additional details two times.
First of all let me tell you about yourself. You are undecisive and you are underestimating yourself. You are confusing yourself too. As long as your ask everything in details I would like to answer you in details. Guys dont always see neck or breast, there are also guys they see your face,personality,communication power,smartness,activeness and knowledge. You already wrote in your question that one of your blind friends got married and having children.
So let me rest assure you by one thing that some day you will get married and you will have alos have bunch of kids.
You have taken your marks too seriously than you should take. You did not born to attract guys. You born for something very special,unique and impossible. Just get your self out from that locked thinking of yours that no guy will look at you.
You are still yount to get marry. I know one of my friends was facing a kind of problem like you are facing. He came out from that problem, he is married the girl is more beautiful and smart. So everybody they get theire soulmate on this planet. So you do not worry.
Everybody has special skills to attract someone. You also get it. May be you still did not use it. Just check yourself. It your life. You should govern it. And not a marks on your neck should govern it. It is your life you should live the way your want and not the way others want.
Hope you will get fine cure about your marks.
Just do not worry too much. Give all important to yourself. You and you are the first priority in your life. THan everything follow, your look,love,romance,neck,face,beauty,marriage everything comes after you.
So be yourself. Smile. It will make you more beautiful.
Take care.
Honey.
2007-12-09 08:43:00 · answer #2 · answered by Honey 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're going to be fine....I'm glad to know that you're recovering, and that's all that should be concerning you. Yes, we like necks, but not to the exclusion of all else; there's a total package of attractants to be considered (up to and including personality) and I have no doubt you're well covered in everyway that matters. Love will find you (and probably bug you half to death), so don't worry about anything other than getting well. The future looks pretty bright from here. Good luck, and Happy Holidays.
2007-12-09 08:40:07 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I think you just said the answer for yourself. If a guy can fall in love with your friend who is blind, someone good will fall in love with you. Guess what? You don't want a man who looks at your neck and stops there when he sees your neck. I know you are concerned about your neck and you feel uncomfortable about it, but try to forget its there. I think you are noticing your neck more then others are.
Good Luck
2007-12-09 08:31:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well we can't be sure unless we see the picture. What you mention may be a big problem or may be a fuss over nothing.
But I am sure you can find some men. But the condition is if you would accept a man with some other shortcomings. As long as you don't look for a Prince Charming with a deep pocket... cause no one is perfect
2007-12-09 08:24:34 · answer #5 · answered by geminiasianboi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You definitely deserve a man. Just be patient and things will work out great for you. You deserve someone who will treat you right and make you feel special. And just know that any guy who doesn't like you for that reason, does not deserve to have YOU! Like I said, just be patient and the man of your dreams will find you when you least expect it!
2007-12-09 08:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by Gdogg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your neck is your best attribute, you might have a problem; if you've got other parts of your body that are outstanding(excuse the pun), focus on them and arrange your clothing and demeanor to play them up and downplay your neck. Unless you're sporting a couple of bolt-holes like Frankenstein, most guys couldn't care less if; you've got the rest goin' on!
2007-12-09 08:30:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes they can fall in love with a woman with scars. Well I can too myself. I don't see why a person cannot. And he must be the right guy too.
2007-12-09 08:26:45 · answer #8 · answered by James ™ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could wear a hoody and have the hood down. And yeah I would go out with a girl with marks on her neck. I like girls for who they are. I'd prefer them to look good but it's fine.
2007-12-09 08:36:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont think theres a reason to be emaressed, NO BODY IS PERFECT, and the one who will love, will love for who you are, even with these scares on your nick, so show it and be confidente ,you dont know who'll fall in love with these scares..
Just be yourself, nothing to be ashamed from..
good luck.
2007-12-09 08:27:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋