I always have this problem, of not being assertive, because I care too much of other people's feelings (especially if they're close people like parents, family, or cousin-at-work) , and since i don't want to hurt their feelings, I often have to sacrifice my own self-esteem, pride , & opinion, by "following their wishes/wants, instead of my wants/dreams".
I hate this "guilty" feelings inside of me, one is because I'm just too scared to be assertive, and so AFRAID that if I'm assertive & talk-back, it'll make problems even worse, & especially the family-relationship get worsens . But on the other hand, i'm also feel "guilty" because I just kept 'torturing' my soul/opinion/self-esteem because I just OTHER people's wish/wants, & not mine.
And i often feel confused,....to be assertive (or 'rebellious, even to parents!?) , or not to be assertive, & just "swallow my pride" , so not to make situation/relationship worse ?
Which one you think is better, in the LONG-run, or eventually?
2007-03-19
09:30:00
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