Me and my gf have been together 4 years now, sex is at an all time low, in fact its been almost 9 months.
Now, relationships aren't about sex, I know. But I’m incredibly frustrated and don't know what to do. She knows it, but simply doesn't feel like it. Other forms are not on the agenda.
No she’s not on medication, and we live together. (Also the hand doesn't satisfy)
Its got so bad lately that I have to sleep in a separate bed, I have told her this and she hates it, she feels stressed with the matter, which I try and respect by not speaking of it and keeping the whole frustration thing quiet. No improvement.
What can I do?? Part of my mind wants to look elsewhere... but I just cant do that to her…
2007-03-19 09:29:03 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If I knew the problem I would try and resolve it. No one has cheated, I am pretty sure she isn't. We are 20 so we should be at our prime. We have no medical conditions. She just doesn't feel like it any more
2007-03-19 09:46:13 · update #1
Some funny answers. But seriously, I can't leave her, I love her.
2007-03-19 09:49:07 · update #2
I can honestly tell u what one person won't do another person will. And u r right sex isn't evrything but u gotta think 9 months. Is she finding sexual pleasures elsewhere? That is really something to think about & I do give my hat off 2 u 4 not takin it there w/ no one yet but if she can't compromise w/ u or even want 2 make u happy then maybe u should let her know that u r contemplating your relationship. Jus let this person know how u feel one last time then give her @ least a week (hey u been waitin this long) and if they jus can't understand u and give u what u need then PEACE
2007-03-19 09:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by Nique 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By ignoring it the problem, it will not get better.
You don't say what the problem actually is.....does she not want to have sex with you, are there performance issues......has the relationship been tested.....did somebody cheat????
There seems to be something causing this, 9 months is a very long time.
2007-03-19 09:34:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's a saying that applies here.
Run like your a.s.s. is on fire.
This is far more likely to get worse then better. Relationships are about sex. Not just sex, but its one of the topics.
Stop putting up with this crap. Don't you think you deserve to be happy?
EDIT:
Yes, you can leave her. She is not going to leave you, she's found what she wants, an asexual love. You're going to spend your entire life feeling like crap about yourself, being frustrated and feeling unloved if you stay with her. GET AWAY FROM HER.
2007-03-19 09:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For God's sake man, whatever you do, don't marry her. It's not going to get any better...
Relationships aren't ALL about sex, but it's definately important, at least to you. Can you live like that for the rest of your life?
2007-03-19 09:32:27 · answer #4 · answered by raetherent 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that her lack of sexual desire is going to cause a
break-up very soon and that you love her and don't want
that to happen....Ask her what you can to do help her..
Get her some womens porn ( Erotic Romance ).
2007-03-19 09:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like you need to have a very long conversation with her if it has been going on this long and driving you crazy.
love is taking/giving and compromise
simply ask her why she does not want to go there with you
think about her answer and make a decision for your life from there.
be cool...
2007-03-19 09:35:09 · answer #6 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why isnt she having sex with you?
do you two actually Talk?
dont do ANYthing else till you know WHY she doesnt want to have sex
2007-03-19 09:35:08 · answer #7 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋