im 14, been with my b/f for 7 months. i would really like to have sex with him. HELP?

Question

we have talked about it, and he sed he would use a condom, but im confuzed. ehat if he leaves me after that? im not a virgin, but that was the biggest mistake of my life. i wish i could change it. please help me, im going out of my mind

Answer 1

If you regret not being a virgin, what makes you think you wont regret doing it again. You are to young to be having sex. Are you ready to take on the responsibilities of having sex? What are you going to do when a baby comes along, or an STD? At 14 are you ready for this?

Answer 2

well if you have already had sex most of the big deal is gone. use some birth control and do what you want to do just don't have a kid. Legal issues aside people become ready for sex at different times. Getting married and waiting till your eighteen are just religious and legal bull. I had sex at a younger age not 14 per say but I would of if I could of lol. I found that in my days people that repeat such tried things as wait till marriage or 18 are usually the biggest of the freaky hippies in their own youth. Human nature hasn't changed since the beginning of time. Society is all that changes and the sexual changes against sex are only a few hundred years old. Our nature hasn't and doesn't want to catch up.
You know what your going to do. So keep it safe don't have a kid till you can afford one and don't do any one over 18 for crying out load lol

Answer 3

Wow. 14? well the legal age is 18 but if ur not a virgin already it doesnt matter. The question you need 2 ask yourself is do he love you and do u luv him. Give it some thought first and if you think ur ready again go ahead and have sex with him. Make sure he not no player that will tell everyone. U want 2 have sex with him and you feel u ready again go ahead.

Answer 4

OK, I, too, am going to tell you, you're too young to have sex...but here's why:

Having sex makes you grown up. That's what grownups do, they have sex. They also have...children. You're 14 now, and perhaps you have younger brothers and sisters. If you do, take a good, hard look at them...would you want to be their PARENT? Even if you don't have brothers and sisters, think back even just a few years. Think about what you were like when you were 12, 10, 8, 6 years old...now, do YOU want to have children, and be responsible for them, 100%, the way your parents had to be (and must continue to be for a few more years yet) with you?

And if you have kids, you must also have a job. Because you have to take care of the kids somehow, and it takes $$$ to do that. You have to have someplace to live. You have to pay the rent or the mortgage for that place. You have to pay the water bill, the electric bill, the phone bill, the gas bill and the taxes. You have to have a car, 'cause how do you get to your job otherwise? Which means you'll have car payments and insurance bills, and the price of gas is only going up up up. Don't forget, you need to get the oil changed every few thousand miles, and new tires. Do you have the appropriate car child safety seat? Is it strapped in correctly?

Oh, and if you and BF want to get away from the screaming baby for a night, you need $$$ to pay the babysitter. Because you cannot leave a child alone--anywhere, at any time. It's morally wrong and it's legally wrong. A human child is pretty helpless for a pretty long time. It is your obligation as a parent to be there 100% of the time, looking out for him, or you must pay $$$ to someone else to do it for you.

Want to go to college and get a higher paying job someday? It'll probably take you twice as long as it takes your peers who don't have children. Then you might have difficulty getting a job that will accomodate your children--time off for dentist's appointments ($$$), doctor visits ($$$), called to the school to pick him up when he pukes in the cafeteria, trip to the hospital to mend the broken ankle after he jumped out of a tree ($$$).

Don't forget, Kiddo is going to be cute and cuddly when he's a baby, but he's going to need his diaper changed for about a year. And then he's probably going to doo-doo his pants a couple more times. You'll still have to take the diaper bag with you everywhere you go, just in case. And he'll wet his bed. YOU get to wash the underwear and the sheets. YOU get to apologize to the people in the city swimming pool about the little yellow trail behind him. When he's three he's going to say "NO!" all the time, no matter what you say/do/ask him, driving you nuts. When he's not saying "NO!" he'll be asking, "Why?" You'll run out of answers. When he's in school you'll get phone calls from the teachers about his behavior, and YOU will have to deal with it. Somewhere along the way, he'll decide HE KNOWS EVERYTHING and you're just a moron, and you'll have to deal with it. When he's 14, he's going to sneak out and buy condoms and pressure his girlfriend to have sex, and then he's going to come home to you and confess that...you're going to be a grandmother! And he's not even old enough to be kicked out of the house yet. Now what do you do?

Well...by now you must get my point. If you have sex, you are grown up. Do you really want to be grown up right now, or do you want to take those few years of childhood left to you and just have fun?

Tell the BF no, no sex. And if can't handle that, tell him, Sorry, it's over. It's my life. I'll grow up when I'm good and ready.

Answer 5

If you're still this unsure about it, or about his commitment to you, then you're definitely not ready. You can still have plenty of fun and intimacy making out with him, without having sex or putting yourself at risk for pregnancy, STDs, and AIDs. Trust me, you'll regret rushing it way more than you'd ever regret waiting. I really suggest waiting until you're *at least* 16 - I know it seems a long way away, but you'll feel much better about it then.

Also, go to your doctor or local Planned Parenthood and get some birth control pills before you even consider having sex again - condoms are not fool-proof.

Answer 6

Coming from someone who lost their virginity at a long age. Please don't do it. It's not worth it. When your yound it sucks. He doesn't know what he doing you wont know what your doing and the only thing that will happen for you is PAIN! Just wait a few more years please! If he loves you he will wait. He is a horny teenage boy and he will tell you anything to get some. And 7 months is really not a long time. You have your whole life ahead of you. I just don't want you to regret it later. Just wait a little longer. And don;t let him pressure you into doing it. If he doesn't understand why you want to wait that is a clear sign that he doesn't care.

Answer 7

Aaaawwww girl, I wish I could take u in my arms and hold u and tell u how much u r worth. The mere fact that u cried out for 'HELP' here, tells me u dont want to do it ... not really. You know u r too young and very confused, but your body is aching for that kind of attention. This man knows what he is doing to u and he just wants to use u. He will make u feel very special and tell u all kinds of things.... till he gets it. Run girl run run run.... as far as u can and dont let any man get u in bed. Your body is a temple, respect it... no man will.

Answer 8

You are too young to have SEX....forget it...when you are older and know what true love is you'll be ready don't rush sex it is too loosely spread around, save it for someone you love and plan to marry and have a family with. You'll be glad you did. I know it's hard now a days but don't go with the flow save your virginity for a serious relationship like when you are over 21!

Answer 9

You are far too young to even be thinking about having sex. Guys say they will put one on, but they really dont want to. I would say dont do it. You could be making a big mistake and then suffer the consquences. Its not good. Dont rush into things, take you time, your still young, enjoy your childhood.

Answer 10

Ok first your only 14 so having "you know" is a bad choice condoms don't always work. So don't do it your too young. You might be in high school but still your only 14! so no its a bad idea wait till your married!