Other - Family & Relationships - 9 March 2007

My father (now 82 yo) has never been expressive - never shown love, pride, affection, anything. 2 yrs back, my mom died and he came to live with us (in a country where sons are "expected" to take care of elderly parents). Since then things have gotten worse. He has never bothered to make any kind of relationship with my wife, ignores his grandchildren, uses the car, family resources, etc and still remains very selfish and unconcerned. Some time back I lost my temper and asked him to make choices in life. He got upset and now wants to move to an old-age home - this makes me feel guilty and sad. I know my family and I will probably feel better if he moves. Social and family expectations however are different. Deep down, I love him and don't want to lose him either. I know I sound confused and any advice will help.

2007-03-09 17:44:57 · 11 answers · asked by notverysure 1

2007-03-09 17:42:50 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I looked at similar questions but as always the situations are different for every person. For me, I've known this guy for two years and only REALLY gotten to know him for a few weeks. There are really obvious signals and even my family and friends can see it. But I don't want to ruin our friendship. What if he's only being encouraging loving becuase I give him attention in return? Or because we're both Christian and I'm misinterpreting a brother-in-Christ's love?
I don't want to admit it to him because I don't know what will happen afterwards if he doesn't like me in the same way. Things wil be really awkward. I'm two minds here and it's driving me nuts! =p Help!

2007-03-09 17:31:35 · 10 answers · asked by patti_ciaza42 1

I think both my friend and her husband drink too much. They have an eighteen month old daughter. I have seen them both so drunk, neither was able to care for their daughter. He is a quiet drunk, while she gets abusive.

Recently at the end of a long day of socialising, both were very drunk, neither wanted to stop drinking, and their daughter was really distressed, very tired, very hungry, and away from home. The mother said to the daughter something like "Shut up B*tch won't you ever let me have a good time".

Someone managed to talk the Dad into taking the baby back to their motel. Wasn't the first time this sort of thing has happened.

Neither of them are particularly good friends, they were friends of my husband's but he has little patience for them now.

I am worried about their daughter. I know the mother slightly better than the father, but both have a problem I think. The mother is likely to fly of the handle if I say anything.

2007-03-09 17:30:07 · 4 answers · asked by bluemountainsbird 2

I don't really know was wrong but I have so many friends and I do trust them...but I don't really like to sit and tell them my problems what I am feeling and so other things...I call some people my bestfriends because Im always with them but they aren't my best friend because a bestfriend is someone you can tell them everything and I haven't had that yet...I can talk to them about the boy I like or just normal stuff...But I just hate to talk about my family problems and so other problems I have with my family.Everything I have a relansionship I ends up in pain,Because I never learn to trust them 100% and Is just me I can change that I don't like to talk about my problems but at the same time I will be nice to hear someone say I"I understand"

2007-03-09 17:20:02 · 5 answers · asked by far_from_perfection14 1

I just saw this man today, kind of good looking, nawing away at some gum. At first I thought "hey he's kinds hot," but then I saw his mouth just chomp, chomp, chomping at that gum. Yuck! Does anyone else (women or gay men) think that it is as much of a turn off as me?

2007-03-09 17:17:26 · 11 answers · asked by huntress1327 2

Family or friends? Why?

2007-03-09 17:12:32 · 3 answers · asked by Yellowstonedogs 7

2007-03-09 17:05:37 · 5 answers · asked by Great Man 1

I'm just afraid that he'll play things behind my back. He used to clubs, parties etc etc. And he knows that i don't like all that. He told me he already change for the better. But who knows.... Poeple do change again... I tried not to control his life. I already say to myself as long as we have not tie with any knot. I wont say anything. But the problem is, I'm still having doubts on him. I'm afraid that he will go back to his old life or leave me for somebody else....

2007-03-09 17:03:20 · 4 answers · asked by wonder 1

I sent my uncle a Christmas card. Now, two 1/2 months later, he sent me a birthday card. However, I have not spoken/seen him in 10 years. When my grandmother died, my mother and her two brothers (one being the uncle I just made contact with) had a nasty fight over money, the estate, etc.

Do I ask him if we can visit together this week, or is it too soon because I have not heard from him in so long except this past week? I sent him an email, but he did not respond yet. So I was going to call him tomorrow. What do you think. I just don't want to blow a second chance of having a relationship with my mom's side of the family again.

2007-03-09 17:02:47 · 8 answers · asked by Peanut Butter 5

My b/f is really busy lately & i hate the fact we can't spend some time together! It really annoys me when we have arguments & end up without talking for days which isn't that good! I feel a distance now even though we both love each other a lot still! We have been going out for 4 years & we wanted to marry! But it just recently i'm getting very mad & just fights with him for everything! I think i should adjust according to his situation even if he doesn't....i should support him in a way that he would appreciate me instead of feeling very annoyed! We talk on the phone but somtimes he'll be lost even on the phone.....just too much stuffs to think in his head so that gets me mad when i think he can't even afford some time to talk to me or give his full attention! How can I support him without getting mad that he's busy for me! & how can i smooth this curve line between us recently! I reall think i should but everytime i take some action thinking to adjust it, next minute we fight more!

2007-03-09 17:02:46 · 1 answers · asked by Girl 1

2007-03-09 17:02:28 · 19 answers · asked by AcuteEye 1

2007-03-09 16:53:10 · 4 answers · asked by megan 1

Seriously, would you.........................
-Sleep with a married man/woman
- have an affair with a friend/boyfriend/girlfriends relative
- Steal money from a friend/ family member

Just asking, I know these questions are pretty bad but the answers could be interesting!

2007-03-09 16:46:08 · 15 answers · asked by Paige 1

Especially when I go to the mall I see these young men, probably in high school or just about, wearing those jeans where the waist falls on their butt. Plus the pants themselves are always too long and dragging. They walk around constantly pulling up the "waist". Why don't they just wear normal jeans?

For that matter, I notice they usually have a very unkempt or unclean look. I am always amazed to see that they are commonly escorting some very pretty and well dressed young ladies. Why?

2007-03-09 16:35:59 · 7 answers · asked by For_Gondor! 5

I am , I love it to be sure, Im going to a bar in Christchurch NZ called Baileys bar where the crowds gather for a full all day session of drinking, dancing and good ole irish festivities.
Maybe see ya there.

2007-03-09 16:24:04 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Missing son/brother. Last contact 2003. Much loved. Very worried.

2007-03-09 16:23:43 · 1 answers · asked by Linda G 1

I know three sisters who were excited to surprise their father with a big gift for his 60th birthday. The oldest is married with a newborn. The second was married last year. The third is unmarried, but in a relationship.

The two married sisters had independently assumed they would split three ways, reasoning that it's 3 parties and 3 daughters.

The third sister assumed they would split 5 ways, reasoning that there are 5 adults in on the gift.

This is now causing a lot of tension in the family!

So, what is fair: 5-way or 3-way? And why?

(There was an earlier Yahoo! Answer concerning a similar situation, but was between couples and friends. My question involves family and a gift for the dad of 3 sisters so I thought I'd post to get opinions about this slightly different circumstance.)

2007-03-09 16:14:32 · 8 answers · asked by joet 2

My ex- and I have been apart for over 2 years. We have our own lives now. But I have been experiencing feelings again. Even though we don't ever really hang out or see each other. Does that make me weak? I guess I can't let go after all this time.

2007-03-09 15:53:44 · 18 answers · asked by MBA Grad Student 1

2007-03-09 15:49:53 · 9 answers · asked by FYIIM1KO 5

my friends always call me a push over! im always getting used and etc! like for example my ex he forgot my birthday when we were going out but on his birthday i spent $35 on him! i didnt really mind but it was a big deal! i want to get meaner! im in high school and my school is a horrible place, exspecially when your a very nice person! im the type of person who hates drama so sometimes i let ppl have there way! plz help cause im getting really tired of being used a stuff!

2007-03-09 15:42:00 · 4 answers · asked by ♥la chica♥ 3

I love my girlfreind more than anything, I really do but I just dont feel good enough for her...

We been together a while and mates well befor then, we really are in love, she was planning a trip befor we got together and now its finnaly happend I really do miss her, I gota wait 3 months befor she returns and 1 month has passed, I miss her terribly but the main question or more point I have to state is.

Shes an amazing girl, smart, beautifull, we always take for hours and shes incredible in bed...

What I am trying to say is, I dont feel worthy of her... im just an average guy... used to be a player with the women but fell in love with her and would never look back.
I could imagine her with a guy whos really intelligent and talks really smart, I am not this guy... the only things I know is im good in bed and I love to chat for hours and have fun.

Id never cheat on her and ill always love her, I just want to know... if you think this is enough for true love =(

2007-03-09 15:17:45 · 12 answers · asked by 5789854322379 1

My girlfriend and I have have been dating for 3 months. We started as friends and then she moved it turned into along distance relationship. We had known each other a few months before that. We talk every day, I'm truly in love with her. I know she really loves me we even talk about marriage and have plans to be together in a couple years after she moves back. Recently though I found out she was talking to this guy she said she talked to him a few times and it was for fun. She admits what she did was wrong and when we talk about it she gets really emotional. She told him she lovs him and she wants to be with him, she now doesnt talk to him. She said it was really stupid and we talked about it for a for a long time. But I can't get over the fact she would do this, I never expected it. I love her so much and we are so close, we tell each other everything. I don't want to let her go but it just keeps runinng over in over in my mind. I just want to make things better but I don't know how.

2007-03-09 15:07:12 · 9 answers · asked by alkacue 1

2007-03-09 15:04:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-03-09 14:52:06 · 5 answers · asked by laceylovin 1

Let me begin off by saying please do not judge me with what I am about to tell you. This event in my life has plagued and scarred me forever....I have NO ONE I can talk to, no one I can relate to. That's why I'm here right now. I want to try and ease the burden :(
I was with this guy for about 6 months. We grew really really fond of each other and I really did love him. Problem is...I am from a really conservative and traditional family and my parents wanted to have have NOTHING to do with him. They actually never even knew we went out. I never told them about him. In the heat of the moment, I did some stupid things that I so deeply regret now. I actually stayed at his place for a weekend and lied to my parents. I did so much stuff to hurt them, that I swear I get nightmares at night as I sleep. The guilt haunts me. I knew, at the end, I had to choose between him or my family. I loved them both dearly, and knew my parents would be heartbroken and completely just...gosh, they would

2007-03-09 14:47:50 · 6 answers · asked by . 1

she think we have nothing in common. but we do somethings in common. I can't lose her she is everything to me.

2007-03-09 14:47:31 · 7 answers · asked by cursed_brandon 1

Just wondering.

2007-03-09 14:45:44 · 1 answers · asked by dapagalyone 1

I have this friend, this BEST BEST BEST FRIEND, and there's something that I really need to tell her, or else there's just going to be a raincloud over my head 24/7. But she either wouldn't understand, or she wouldn't think it's worth hearing, just another one of my times of getting too emotional over nothing. ?

2007-03-09 14:41:56 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

my mom doesn't have any co=workers that have little kids by the way

2007-03-09 14:36:23 · 6 answers · asked by Hi!! 2