My b/f is really busy lately & i hate the fact we can't spend some time together! It really annoys me when we have arguments & end up without talking for days which isn't that good! I feel a distance now even though we both love each other a lot still! We have been going out for 4 years & we wanted to marry! But it just recently i'm getting very mad & just fights with him for everything! I think i should adjust according to his situation even if he doesn't....i should support him in a way that he would appreciate me instead of feeling very annoyed! We talk on the phone but somtimes he'll be lost even on the phone.....just too much stuffs to think in his head so that gets me mad when i think he can't even afford some time to talk to me or give his full attention! How can I support him without getting mad that he's busy for me! & how can i smooth this curve line between us recently! I reall think i should but everytime i take some action thinking to adjust it, next minute we fight more!
2007-03-09 17:02:46 · 1 answers · asked by Girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're asking all the right questions.
Time for some compromises. Try to find ways that he can pay attention to you that are relaxing and non-stressful for him. That kind of thing is a good compromise.
Obviously, you've started fights in part to get attention. Apologize heavily for that, and tell him that all the real stuff in the fights that really needs to be talked about can wait for a while. (You can mention QUICKLY what it is, however. ;) Assuming there is anything real, of course.)
And say things that prove you understand how HE feels about how the relationship has been going.
Also, ask him whether a few hours of love-making with no conversation at all would be something he'd enjoy. :) Many men would find that VERY relaxing. :)
2007-03-10 05:04:33 · answer #1 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋