Other - Family & Relationships - 26 February 2007

So my boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 5 months. I know it doesnt seem long BUT things progressed very quickly for both of us. We both jumped in with two feet and head first. We moved in together (he was my neighbour for 2 years before we started dating), talked about marriage and having children together and growing old with my parents living next door.

The 1st three months of the relationship were out of this world. Honestly nothing else in the world mattered except for him. Completely infatuated. One morning I woke up and found that "I didnt love him anymore" this happened along with some depression and some chemical imbalances in my head so my family doctor put me on some anti-anxiety meds. They have done their part but there is still this thought in the back of my head that always asks me "Do you really love him?"

He is everything I have ever wanted genuine, trustworthy (something I have never had before), passionate, romantic, sexy, intelligent etc etc...6 months before I met him I got out of a horrible relationship with a cop that ended up losing his job for abusing me. We dated for a year and when times were good times were OUT OF THIS WORLD! and I think thats why it was hard for me to get over him cause our entire relationship was based on drama. So that being said going from a dramatic relationship to a healthy one 6 months later is quite tough but all in all I think this is the place for me to stay.
Here is where the problem lies. I dont trust myself in this relationship. I feel as though I have to stay out of sight of my ex in order not to cave in to his lies. All in all I feel as though he has some sort of control over me. I feel as though if he were to ask for me back it would be difficult to say no. Although, I want to be with my current boyfriend forever. Are there any suggestions as to how to deal with this?

My new beau makes me laugh, I'm comfortable with him and I enjoy spending quite nights alone with him. We are very sexual with one another and I think that him being with another woman could turn me on although I look at that as though I dont care about him and I dont care if he was with another girl behind my back or something which honestly I dont think is the case.....

All of my friends look at me with my current boyfriend and they say I am completely myself with him and I have NEVER been like that. I usually am very controlling but for a reason I am completely myself with him. I think I was like that before because my ex's were all meant to be mis-trusted....Anyways. what I am asking is why dont I feel as infatuated for him as I did for my ex...I always wanted to marry my ex until he became abusive but I cant say 100% if I want to marry this one. I just want to know 100% and know that this is right and I want to trust myself to say no to my ex, I dont want to have to avoid places in case he shows up?!?!?! Thanks!

2007-02-26 08:18:50 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I used to be such an easy going perosn. It used to take a lot for me to get angry, but I have noticed that in the last year I am angry a lot! I'm angry more then I am happy! I find myself yelling at my kids over little things that in the past would have never bothered me. Its a daily thing that I seem to get mad at my husband for nothing. He can look at me the wrong way and I get defensive and mad. What is going on? I don't like being this way. I don't like my family feeling like they are walking on eggshells around me!! I feel like me being angry all the time over stupid stuff is tearing my family appart!! I want to be that happy easy going person again!! But I don't know how to get her back!!!

2007-02-26 08:13:01 · 6 answers · asked by Chris 1

I am in the process of enticing my wife into some anonymous exobitionism. We are going to be staying in NYC for the weekend in a few weeks and staying at a large hotel near Time's Square. We are going to get all dressed up for the night. Dinner, Show, Dancing. She's going to be dressed in a hot dress with seamed thigh-highs and heels. Specifically, this is my fantasy. I want to be on a high floor and at night press her up against the window, blindfolded, and slowly and sensually expose her while I have sex with her. The place we are staying has floor to ceiling windows so there is a thrill of having sex on a 50 story ledge. Anyone ever do this? If so how was it? What are your thoughts on this? I'd love some suggestions to enhance the moment!

2007-02-26 08:05:27 · 6 answers · asked by TheGarlicButterSaw 3

True or not?

2007-02-26 08:05:02 · 17 answers · asked by K 1

2007-02-26 07:54:43 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-02-26 07:52:50 · 1 answers · asked by jojo 5

concerning a jerk, bully (workplace or otherwise.), abusive signifigant other (pushy bf, gf, wife or husband) for your morals, or for your self when someone in a position over you orders you to do some thing you know will bite you in the azz later. (you personally and not the one who ordered you to do it.) List examples and experiences on how you did this and what happened to make you do so.

2007-02-26 07:51:47 · 5 answers · asked by gotagetaweigh 4

We are newlyweds and we only have sex twice a month. I love him very much and I don't want to hurt his feelings. I am sure he is frustrated too. And in case your are wondering- I am very attractive and very open minded when it comes to sex- so that is not the problem. I especially do not want to make the matters worse by making him feel inadequate. HELP!

2007-02-26 07:48:34 · 17 answers · asked by Wanderlust 2

2007-02-26 07:48:19 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

i'm 19 and this guy is 24 and engaged (i think he knows i think he is a little cute) but tends to be flirty then disrecpects me but he thinks its funny, one of the things he does is that he bitches about me not bussing his tables and threatens not to tip, but i buss his tables in front of his face, then he'll be nice , say hi to me and try to get know me, then he'll make remarks and say i get offended easily and will keep going on about it, he will say things like "your sweater is ripped,do you wanna show off your nice tan", he always asks how old i am after i have told him

he also wanted to know my schedule at the community college i go to b/c he goes there too and he said" so when are you there so i can hide from you", that's also when he wanted to know where i was from and he got concerned for me when i told him i didn't like school, what to do?

2007-02-26 07:43:38 · 14 answers · asked by amanda 1

WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER SINCE JULY, AND IM REALLY LIKING HIM!HES A FEW MONTHS YOUNGE THEN ME AND IM ALMOST 18! HE'S THE ONLY GUY WHO HASNT HURT ME.HES REALLY A $GREAT GUY! I HAVE NEVER FELT SO COMFORTABLE WITH MY SELF and im always happy AND HES EVERYTHING MY DAD WANTS FOR ME.. BUT MY PARENTS DONT WANT ME TO HAVE A BF RIGHT NOW..THEY WANT ME TO FOCUS ON SCHOOL .SO I AM DATING HIM W/OUT THEM KNOWING..BUT IM TIRED OF HIDING IT..HOW CAN I MAKE THEM UNDERSTAND THAT I LOVE THEM BUT HE MEANS ALOT TO ME? CUZ NOTHING I TELL THEM SEEMS TO WORK!!..HELP ME!!!!!!!!

2007-02-26 07:31:37 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have a best friend, we had stopped for a while because hes has lady that told him to stay away from me but now we talk again and its not the same but. i have constely HAVE weird dreams about him either where together or doin couples things, or he comes out being mad jelouse but i have a lot of dreams wit him in it.what does that mean???

2007-02-26 07:29:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Everyone is doing my head in,
I couldn't even park my car in my private bay as someone had put a skip in it,
My kids are driving me nuts
I think I might get drunk
How was your day ??

2007-02-26 07:25:41 · 7 answers · asked by Elle J Morgan 6

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2007-02-26 07:25:26 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a friend who is 14 all her life she has been nothing to the eyes of her parents. As her parents she believes there is some good in them but i've heard so much that i have had about enough! My friend is a great person, she has a great personality, she's smart and a future. but at home her parents call her a failure.. they treat her like **** and think of her as the worst. she has broken down on me many times and it tears me apart to see her like that. she's scared to lose all she has and i've let her know im there and i've given her thoughts about getting out but it's her family and i understand her that she wants to find the good in them. BUT THERE IS NO DAMN GOOD IN THEM!

2007-02-26 07:12:11 · 7 answers · asked by ninacoqueta0817 2

I really am finding it hard to place my feelings. One minute i am ok and happy with my partner, then when things go wrong with family and other stuff i feel i dont want him around and tell him i want him to leave as my feelings for him are gone. Its like i go really cold and heartless towards him and i dont know why. We been together three years and have a little girl, just cant keep carrying on like this because i know deep down i do love him, just find it really hard to show him i do. He still sticks around, that something as i would of gone along time ago.

2007-02-26 07:12:09 · 13 answers · asked by Nichola c 2

because u have 2 make sure they dont fall inwards or splatter outwards if u know what i mean lol

2007-02-26 07:10:58 · 8 answers · asked by cheesy_sausage@btinternet.com 1

2007-02-26 07:07:54 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-02-26 07:06:43 · 38 answers · asked by atxman2003 1

bio father was very abusive to me...had to be relocated to nj..in a shelter for domestic voilence protection...now reside in albany ny..where my children are residents with me...im the only legel guardian...the bio father wants to take me to court...he doesnt pay child support tho he was ordered to...and one of the children is in special ed...the bio father fills the childrens heads with garbage...i work a parttime job..because my minor daughter has a baby...im currently going thru family court for non found child necglect...which is because the board of ed..has not accompanied my children with the proper transportation...can bio father take my children from me...???

2007-02-26 07:06:31 · 1 answers · asked by billionaires072000 1

I was dating this man from Syria for about one year before he left for California. I flew back and forth for a year to see him while he lived out there and then he eventually broke if off with me because of the long distance thing. Well, we stayed in contact via email and two years after we broke if off, he emails me and says he has been still thinking about me and wanted me to fly out. So I did and we had a great time, just like old times. He always mentions I should move out to California but thats it. He doesn't ever elaborate on commitment or anything. When I saw him he was holding hands with me and acted like he was having a great time also, but when I got home, he emails me one sentence....."I hope you arrived safely home and your trip was not to tiring. I'm thinking, that's it, no "It was so great to see you, maybe You can come out again soon, nothing. So what am I to think of this??

2007-02-26 07:04:23 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do you still send flowers? He's having a viewing Wednesday night and a memorial service Thursday morning. What gesture would be appropriate since he's not being buried?

2007-02-26 06:57:40 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been with my boyfriend for 5 yrs. The first two years we were together I thought I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. However, by the 3rd year things started to change for the worst. He has a drug problem that he refuses to get help with. I realize that I'm powerless to help him if he doesn't even want to help himself. After five years I'm tired of my needs and wants going unmet. I wish him well but can no longer tolerate his inability to change. What would you do if you were in this situation. I don't know what to do to make this relationship work when I'm the one doing all the work so I want to move on.

2007-02-26 06:54:45 · 6 answers · asked by strawberriesilove 2

What do you think of getting married for reasons other than love? I've been a single mom for over 3 years now (my daughter's 3 1/2)and after going out ONE time in over 2 years and using the patch and morning after pill, I had a son. His father and I do not know each other well, but he has been staying with us and helping out a lot. He wants to get married (hes 20 years older than me) and do the 'right' thing. I am not in love with him, but having the support and help is prooving to be much more important to me now than love. I don't know if it's because I have had no help or support for so long that this idea appeals to me or what... I'd like to know if anyone else has been in a similar situation and what the outcome was.

2007-02-26 06:52:57 · 20 answers · asked by feather 2

I met this guy two years ago and we dated for a year and four months, during this time, he never show me any sence of belonging or that he cares about me but rather, i was the one caring for him but wehn i realised myself, i decided to call it off. though it wasnt my fualt but his cos he asked for it.

First, i got a job and needed a guarantor, which i asked him to do for me but he refused secondly, i lost my phone ans asked him to help me but he said that EVEN IF MY MONEY FULL THIS HOUSE, I WILL NOT GIVE IT TO YOU COS I ASKED YOU NOT TO GO THAT DAY BEFORE THEY STOLE YOUR PHONE.

He has never been good to me but i never noticed it as they that "Love is Blind" but i tell you now i can see. then i have to quit the relationship. now he wants me back.

2007-02-26 06:40:47 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

i'm pregnant but we used a condom what do i do HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-02-26 06:24:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-02-26 06:17:24 · 10 answers · asked by rebecka_rum 1

Oh enemy blade thats staring at me
Why do you torture me with this thought?
This could kill don't you see?
When all inside feeling begins to rot
You might understand why I choose to die
A long life would be too much to bear
Taking a shortcut instead of living a lie
I never needed anyone to care




What do you think of this?Does it make sense?I Just finished writing it and i started it last night.GIVE ME YOUR OPINION!!

2007-02-26 06:14:56 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay when we first started he made clear that we will not answer each others phone. Now he thinks it's cute for him to answer my phone even if it's my mom calling.
I mean his phone rings like crazy at all times of the day and i don't reach for it to answer it.
WELL last night my cell rang and I was in the bathroom and when i came out he was talking to someone on the phone. I mean being rude. I reached and toke my phone and apologized. It was my uncle from out of state whom i haven't talked to in a while. Did i have the right to go off on him? I mean he was the one with the idea in the first place!!!

2007-02-26 05:55:30 · 15 answers · asked by ♥Miss Self-Sufficient 5

we did not mean to it just happened. i need advice someone HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!what would you do if you were in my situation?

2007-02-26 05:53:55 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous