I was dating this man from Syria for about one year before he left for California. I flew back and forth for a year to see him while he lived out there and then he eventually broke if off with me because of the long distance thing. Well, we stayed in contact via email and two years after we broke if off, he emails me and says he has been still thinking about me and wanted me to fly out. So I did and we had a great time, just like old times. He always mentions I should move out to California but thats it. He doesn't ever elaborate on commitment or anything. When I saw him he was holding hands with me and acted like he was having a great time also, but when I got home, he emails me one sentence....."I hope you arrived safely home and your trip was not to tiring. I'm thinking, that's it, no "It was so great to see you, maybe You can come out again soon, nothing. So what am I to think of this??
2007-02-26 07:04:23 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't think he's intentionally messing with you, but I also don't think he's offered you significant committment to make a cross-country move.
You could bring up the idea that you were thinking of moving to CA to see what he says if that's what you want to do.
But I think I'd consider my local options, unless I really truly wanted to move to CA. I think you could easily find yourself in CA all alone, so you should be prepared to do the move because you want to live there, unless he's offering you a ring.
2007-02-26 07:09:08 · answer #1 · answered by jplrvflyer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he ever fly out to see you??? Why are you making all of the effort? If he did as much as you do, I'd say maybe you have a chance. But I just don't see that (from what you're saying). Find someone close to home. You'll be much, much happier.
2007-02-26 15:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey...yanno what...he did show a geniune interest in commitment..but u missed it...He always mentions I should move out to California but thats it.
2007-02-26 15:15:44
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Maybe he's having a hard time expressing himself. ask him where the two of you stand from his perspective. that's the only way you're going to figure anything out, ask questions, get responses and pay attention to the responses. blesses be
2007-02-26 15:08:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a philosophy to relationships. you need to think about this saying about your "partner" and about yourself from your partners point of view and most if not all of your questions can be answered.
some people are worth it some people aren't
2007-02-26 15:10:50 · answer #5 · answered by know_moore 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell him what's on your mind and ask him where his mind is at? You don't have to wait for him to inititate the big conversation.
2007-02-26 15:08:25 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your being used for sex.... not much more to think of
2007-02-26 15:07:32 · answer #7 · answered by mohvictor 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋