we did not mean to it just happened. i need advice someone HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!what would you do if you were in my situation?
2007-02-26 05:53:55 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think that you should talk to your mom and the two of you make a decision....
2007-02-26 05:59:10 · answer #1 · answered by ***Girlie Girl*** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not have an abortion because I am totally against it. I would keep it because I would realize what happened and I would just own up to it. I understand you two are not ready and you did not plan this but having a baby is not the end of the world it just means that your life has now changed. Tell your mother and tell who ever you need to for support, check out any planned parenthood facilities that you might have in your city, and you can even ask your gynecologist for advice as well. Don't worry, and like I said it happens, now you know to try birth control or use condoms to prevent pregnancy the next time.
2007-02-26 06:15:44 · answer #2 · answered by livlovelaugh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a question you need to ask yourself.
What do you want?
You say should you just ask your mom.... How old are you? Do you live with your mom? Can you afford the cost and time a baby meeds? I want to help you answer your question but there isnt enough information for me to answer it correctly.
You also have the option of having the baby and giving it to a couple that are unable to have children.
Its up to you. Your options as follows:
- Pay the $350 (depending on state/country) for the abortion and maybe feel bad about it in the long run
- Have the child
- Give the child to a couple in need
You know having a child is a blessing.... you shouldnt freak out.
2007-02-26 06:07:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't give your age, but I think you should tell your mom and see what she says. She loves you and she can help you decide what to do.
There are 3 options and each one has pros and cons : 1) keep the baby and raise him/her yourself (with parent's help?); 2) deliver the baby and give it up for adoption; and 3) abortion.
You and your mom together can come up with a plan that will work best for all of you.
And now that you know the consequences of sex, I expect you to be responsible in the future and use birth control EVERY TIME until you are ready to have a baby.
Good luck sweetie - it's gonna be hard, but you will survive this!
2007-02-26 06:02:50 · answer #4 · answered by not yet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I cannot make this choice for you. I feel that you should sit and talk to your mom befor you go and abort it. I am not a fan of Abortion but wont tell you that you cant. I will tho strongly suggest you talk with your mom. She will be a strong help no matter what for you and be able to think of the best thing. hope this helps.
2007-02-26 05:58:29 · answer #5 · answered by Amie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?
I would not have an abortion until I spoke with an adult in my life, like my mom or dad. If you don't think that you can take care of this child and don't feel that your boyfriend will support you and your child, adoption is another and better option than abortion, IMO. There are alot of people in this world who would love to have a child, but can't.
2007-02-26 05:58:22 · answer #6 · answered by mark my words 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you decide you need to sit down with your boyfriend research the three options (abortion, adoption, and raising the baby) and try to make an adult decision. I think you should tell your mom but if you feel like you can't try to search your soul and see what you can live with. Good luck.
2007-02-26 06:22:43 · answer #7 · answered by nm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first,girl...getting pregnant doesn't JUST happen.
of course you didn't mean to get pregnant, but you had sex...it comes with the territory.
dang it...i can go on forever.
but pregnancy doesn't just magically appear.
tell your mom and have that baby. it's not the baby's fault. don't take it out on the baby. aren't you glad your mom didn't decide to have an abortion WITH YOU?
do you really want your uterus scraped clean? i hear it's painful.
next time, sweetie, use condoms or be more careful or just don't have sex til ur ready to be a mom.
good luck.
2007-02-26 05:56:50 · answer #8 · answered by lkjgfyfukh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are old enough to have sex, then you are old enough to be a mother. Take responsibility for your actions. Having a baby can be a great experience. Do not let anyone advise you otherwise. Tell your mom and keep the baby
2007-02-26 05:59:09 · answer #9 · answered by Elder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should sit down and talk to your mom, I know when i was 16 yrs i got pregnant i was scared shitless but i didn't want to feel alone and i know she would be there for me, so please educate your self, there are a couple ways to handle the situation so please talk to your mom or some one else who you can trust don't do these only i sure hope all works out for you!
2007-02-27 01:26:32 · answer #10 · answered by raven s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what state or country you are in and your age. If you are over 18 years of age (no matter the state) then you can do this without your mother knowing about it. She may wonder why you feel ill afterwards but you can just say it is menstruation pains.
2007-02-26 05:57:58 · answer #11 · answered by DutchApplePie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋