I really am finding it hard to place my feelings. One minute i am ok and happy with my partner, then when things go wrong with family and other stuff i feel i dont want him around and tell him i want him to leave as my feelings for him are gone. Its like i go really cold and heartless towards him and i dont know why. We been together three years and have a little girl, just cant keep carrying on like this because i know deep down i do love him, just find it really hard to show him i do. He still sticks around, that something as i would of gone along time ago.
2007-02-26 07:12:09 · 13 answers · asked by Nichola c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Be careful what you ask him to do as he won't stick around for ever. So many women make the mistake of thinking they can do no wrong and eventually when it is too late and the bloke has gone they realise that they are not the best thing since sliced bread.
2007-02-26 07:16:49 · answer #1 · answered by freddy the newf 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you push all your feelings down when you are upset. So you feel numb about everything and it makes you feel like you don't love him anymore, when in fact , you do. You really need to open up and share all your feelings with him... good and bad. sounds like he'll be there for you. You also need to be very aware of what you say and do when you are feeling this way. How you react to someone and what you say when you're upset is controllable. Just be more in touch with your own feelings. Lastly, a therapist will be able to help you with this problem. there is no shame in seeking mental help, especially when your relationship is at stake. Good luck to you
2007-02-26 07:22:40 · answer #2 · answered by N I K I 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Can I suggest a book called the Five Love Languages? It is by Gary Chapman and you can find it at Barnes & Noble or Christian book stores.
It can help you understand your love language and his and help you to communicate to each other in a way that makes each other feel loved.
You also may try having your thyroid tested. Thyroid disease is easily treated with medication but untreated, a person can have up and down emotional spells.
2007-02-26 07:18:49 · answer #3 · answered by Buff 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It seems like your not dealing with your problems in a good way. When things go wrong with family and your tired of it you feel by getting rid of him atleast it's one less thing to deal with or worry about. Atleast you recognize that you are doing this, if you love him you should talk to him, you will find that this will help and he will help you more than you would think he can in getting through things (if he loves you). If you don't talk to him, eventually he will be tired of feeling attacked as he won't see any reasoning behind it.
2007-02-26 07:22:13 · answer #4 · answered by shayshay 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may be going through a little bit of depression. Go get a full physical at your doctor's office. Tell her/him how you feel. They may recommend counseling. A counselor may be able to help you cope with these feelings and learn to understand where they're coming from.
Good luck.
2007-02-26 07:16:32 · answer #5 · answered by J F 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when people are going through stressful situations they just want to be alone. He should know that its just apart of you and not to take it personal. You should let him know as well. Tell him how you feel and assure him that your just upset and stressed and may say mean things but that its all out of frustration. Let him know that truly you do love him. Good luck!
2007-02-26 07:15:57 · answer #6 · answered by TheLight 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you can't tell him how you feel why not show him your question - try to be as loving to him as you can but explain that you can't understand your feeling yourself, know your being unfair etc,. He sounds like a good one who would be understanding!
2007-02-26 07:17:25 · answer #7 · answered by yogiboo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Put a little love in your heart. You have a child that needs a father and if you won't consider your husband, then consider your child and quit thinking only of yourself. If you don't change and he leaves, you will regret it for the rest of your life and so will your daughter.
2007-02-26 07:18:19 · answer #8 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
well dats wat he is suppose 2 do follow u n try 2 confort u wen times r bad n good, but if either way u still don like it den wen ur happy sit down with him n tell him dat wen u r in a bad mood 2 leave u alon 2 giv u sum space, n make sur dat wen ur mad dat u tell him because then he will be aware n not bother u
2007-02-26 07:17:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are heartless, thoughtless and selfish. One day he will leave you but then it will be too late to change.
Next time you start this bullying behaviour try thinking how it would affect you to be treated that way.
2007-02-26 07:18:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋