2007-02-26 07:48:19 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
don't tell them to t off just ignore them. its your life if you dont
want to settledown at 28 which i would not do if i were you
then live your life and don't. i think that after 30 is the best
time becasue in your teens and 20's your just having fun
and dating who ever you want. later on for most people in
there mid 30's they get bored and they have done what they
wanted and they are ready to settle down. iam 32 and i just
got married in may of last year. my first marraige. got
tired of being used and mistreated by men. i was ready
to settle down start a family and be committed to one
man which is my husband.
2007-02-26 14:19:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone may THINK you should settle down and have kids, but how about you? Are they REALLY thinking about what you need or want? Let's face it. You will be the parent, not them.
Although I do not have children, and there was a time when I thought I did, I am happy and satisfied with the life I have without them. I can cherish the children of my brothers, sister, niece, and nephew; and still sleep late in the morning.
The choice is yours, but what THEY think and what YOU know are two different things, and they are not living your life.
Are you sure they are not trying to make you more like them so they do not see you happy being different than them? I have experienced the envy and jealousy of others who have children because I have the freedom and resources (usually financial) to go places and do things they cannot ----because they have kids.
I am not bashing parents at all. It is a difficult, and expensive, responsibility to raise kids. I respect them immensely. But I have my life too, and so do you.
2007-02-26 08:03:23 · answer #2 · answered by christophereno 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you bow to pressure then you'd end up resenting your kids for getting in the way of your life. That's no way to raise a child. When you feel ready for it, and you will know when you're ready, then do it. Otherwise just ignore other peoples opinions. It's your life.
I didn't have kids til I was 39. I felt ready and was happy that I'd done all the things I wanted to in life and wanted to settle down and become a mum (albeit a single mum). Many people tell me how happy my daughter is and I put it down to being wanted and loved because she was exactly what I wanted and I made the decision to have her. It makes the world of difference.
2007-02-26 08:02:40 · answer #3 · answered by Spottie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take things at at ur own speed hunni, not every one needs to settle down just cos every one else is, u will only end up with the wrong person or upset lives, so dont tell them to f*** off just tell them ur happy the way u r and that ur happy for them but u will settle down in ur own time.
best of luck hun xx
2007-02-26 07:56:16 · answer #4 · answered by littlemermaid_72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Settling down is not for everyone; nor is having kids!
My kid sister was, and still is, the original rock chick - travelling all over the world; working at anything - running a mile from anything that smelt like committment!
she has had at least 40 differnet jobs; countless men, moved house many, many times. Smoke, drank, gambled. you name it.
At the age of 38 she got married, to the astonishment of everyone, to a friend who had been around for years. She has just had their second baby at the age of 40.
She saw it all, did it all - and wouldn't change a thing.
You have loads of time
2007-02-26 08:04:08 · answer #5 · answered by marie m 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush into marriage or having children. If you get married before your ready it could end in divorce, if you have children before your ready you won't be as committed to them as if you wait until your ready. You'll know when it's time to settle down, until then enjoy your life. Let everyone know that you're happy with your life the way it is.
2007-02-26 08:11:20 · answer #6 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to F off! Or politely to mind their own business. Im 29 and have decided since the age of about 10 that I will never have kids. Its my choice. I hate it when people look knowingly at each other and say "oh you'll change your mind when you're older". I am older and the answers still no! Have kids if you want to, when you're ready and with the right person. Its no-ones business but yours!
2007-02-26 07:54:42 · answer #7 · answered by hiddenmyname 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm 28 and I'd love to settle down and have kids - each to their own! Do what is right for you.
2007-02-26 07:51:19 · answer #8 · answered by Funky Little Spacegirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is your life. no matter what anyone else says, it's your decision that counts in the end. so if you are ready to settle down and have kids, then do! if not, then maybe wait a while, do other things and just do what you want to do. when the time is right, i'd say that you'll know it!!
2007-02-26 07:53:17 · answer #9 · answered by petmania20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's up to you to decide when and if you settle down and have kids. no one can tell you when is the right time for you. I wouldn't tell them to F off, but I would just tell them that it is your own choice and you don't want to be pressured by them to settle down before you're ready.
2007-02-26 07:54:42 · answer #10 · answered by Green-eyed Nikki 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋