concerning a jerk, bully (workplace or otherwise.), abusive signifigant other (pushy bf, gf, wife or husband) for your morals, or for your self when someone in a position over you orders you to do some thing you know will bite you in the azz later. (you personally and not the one who ordered you to do it.) List examples and experiences on how you did this and what happened to make you do so.
2007-02-26 07:51:47 · 5 answers · asked by gotagetaweigh 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Mostly, I just got angry. For me, this is very easy.
2007-02-27 17:55:35 · answer #1 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually have to talk to a neutral third party about the conflict and feel that I am being reasonable about what is bothering me.
Some people just feel that they have good reasons to say no to something and they have no doubts about it so they can be strong in resisting.
I did have a situation where that was true for me. I was in a therapist's office telling him my problems (such as asking him what he thought of my actions in a conflict and whether he thought my feelings were justified, etc.) . He told me that my insurance (which paid for the cost of the therapy) had reached the limit and I would have to be writing him a check from then on, out of my own pocket. I knew it was something I could not afford. He was willing to make some accomodation in the rate but NO; I loved the therapist and his sensitivity to my problems and I loved talking to him. But it ended right there, that meeting. I fear debt more than I fear almost anything else.
I broke off a realtionship that was difficult to quit because I knew the person would never be the man to make a sincere commitment. I rationally made the decision to date other people, started dating and then it was easy to break up. He was the kind of guy who cheated so I knew that when I started dating, he could never criticize me for seeing other people. It was the one thing that made it easy for me to leave that destructive relationship.
2007-03-03 21:26:37 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't ever do anything that is immoral or not for a just cause. If ordered to do so at work I just state my position on the issue and why I prefer not to do it. That way I won't take responsibility for it if things go wrong. I will include the person who ordered it done. They will stand up with me in the end. Good Luck
2007-03-04 01:06:40 · answer #3 · answered by andyt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've found that what the supernanny and the dog whisperer do in their areas of work can also be helpful in dealing with difficult people. try it!
2007-03-06 13:12:01 · answer #4 · answered by Joey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ignore those negative people..huh.not worth our time
2007-03-06 01:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by mizz_car 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋